In a world filled with relationship goals from celebrities, couple pictures flooding timelines, and relationship vlogs on Youtube, it is easy to forget that there is such a thing as being by yourself. Most of us aspire to be married so having relationships in college is a great way to figure out what you like and don’t like in a partner. Yet, it is almost necessary that you go through periods where you are single to gain a greater understanding of yourself and others.
I am sure you all are wondering what makes me credible to speak on this situation? For the majority of my life I have been the matchmaker friend who invests all their time setting others up and being a counselor through their relationship. I was also the girl who had a huge crush on a guy but he never saw me as more than a friend. It wasn’t until my last two years of high school and first two years of college when I became seriously involved with someone. So it’s safe to say that I am a pro at being single and I fully embrace it!
I have gained a tremendous amount of clarity from being solo and looking at previous relationships and friend’s relationships. During my time of solitude, I have learned what I could have done better in my last relationship. Often times, when relationships go bad we tend to solely blame the other party. However, I began to realize my faults and take responsibility for what I added to the situation. I also have realized that I have things internally that I must adjust. It is truly amazing how clear your mind becomes when you are not mentally or physically involved with anyone. I have had more time to self-evaluate, self-love, and strengthen my spiritual walk.
Learn to truly be okay with being single and not feel like you need the validation of a man to make you great. You are phenomenal by yourself, a force to be reckoned with! Take the time to love on yourself a little bit more and become a stronger individual. Make yourself the best that you can be so that when the time comes around for a relationship, you will be fully ready. Remember, being single is nothing to be ashamed of or disappointed in yourself. God simply is preparing you for something greater. Best wishes!