It’s that time of the season again, where “we’re just talking”, turns into “nah that’s my girl/guy”. You might be wondering if it’s really the season to settle down and focus on only one person since the weather is getting colder OR is it still okay to live freely and do you just like you was in the summer time. I’m here to say DO YOU, maybe I’m bitter, maybe I’m blunt but you are on a college campus where the ratio is 22:1. Hampton University females are probably one of the baddest and flyest around, and dudes are at that stage where they want to just “enjoy life”. So you do just that, ENJOY your life, party, cram for exams, slide in DM’s, keep it casual because girl you ain’t the only one trying to be the only one.
Now if you’re an upperclassmen and you are tired of the games, and you’re looking for someone to commit to and talk heavy to, I approve of you going after the one you’ve been plotting on since pre-college. I advise that you “pull-up on em” and make sure they’re on the same page as you. HOWEVER if they don’t seem like exclusive works for them, and exclusive is what you’re looking for, LEAVE because no amount of cold weather, snow storms, and good sex is going to make a boy want to date you. You can throw it on him backwards, sis and he will still find time to text some girl paragraphs in between his classes.Now, if he does decide that he wants to be exclusive, GOOD. Now make him show you, because a man’s ego can talk for him all day long but until he starts courting you and showing you initiative, he is still AUDITIONING, don’t give him the role if his acting skills are mediocre. Cast based on your lifestyle, if you have a Denzel-worthy spot, don’t let Nick Cannon get the lead role and expect for him to have Denzel’s traits. He has the potential maybe, and may excel in other aspects but if he doesn’t qualify for YOU, don’t hire him.
No your standards aren’t too high, if you’re planning to get off the market and really build with someone it needs to be the BEST someone. If you aren’t sure if someone is the best, keep dating them, allow them to show you who they are.  A person will reveal themselves to you in more than a million ways, you just have to pay attention and think RATIONAL. Don’t assume that everyone is good, and everyone is raised like you because quite honestly there’s people out here who don’t give a damn how they do you, as long as they get something in the end.
AND fellas if you don’t plan on cuffing her, stop letting her become comfortable because you won’t get rid of her. She will get ideas of romance if you let her stay the night, and drop her off at the back gate before class. It’s okay to be honest. There are plenty of girls looking for no strings attached fun. So if you know she’s feeling you way harder than you feeling her, speak up. Cuffing season is exactly what it sounds like, getting together for the season which just so happens to be when it gets cold outside. I personally will be studying and hustling this season since I wasn’t drafted, however that doesn’t mean you have to do the same. So either boss up and get that man you been wanting since you was a freshman, or continue to entertain and be courted without giving up anything because you have that power. Go grab your man, YOUR man SIS , if he’s taken– choose someone else, or sit this season out.