The worst part about dating today is that we end up in more “almost” relationships than actual ones. Developing a connection with someone only to have it die out before it really has a chance to go anywhere can be completely heartbreaking and honestly it just sucks. Here’s what almost relationships are really like and why they are one of the worst parts of modern dating.
1. You talk a lot but only through texting or calling
You’ve talked about the basics like how your days were going and what you plan to do on the weekend, but other than that, the only way you really know this person is based on the back and forth texting and the occasional late night phone call. The communication is routine and you look forward to what is coming next, but in truth, there isn’t actually anything there.
2. You talk about meeting up, but never do
In conversation, you bring up getting together to see a movie or get something to eat, but it never happens. This is because you might be busy or one of you is on the fence about things and you keep the conversation going “just in case”, but again, nothing ever happens.
3. You catch feelings
You get to know him more; you become intrigued and even start daydreaming about a possible future together. But, you never actually get there, or even anywhere. Are you seeing the pattern here? There may be moments of excitement because you have someone who could be a potential bae, but you never fully connect so these moments amount to nothing.
4. You share intimate details about yourself for no reason
When you’re almost dating a guy, there is something about the possibility of building a serious relationship that makes you want to open up completely in the hopes of making him want more. That rarely happens, and you’ll have to live with knowing that a stranger knows all the intricate details about your life.
5. You say good morning every day, but never in person
You wake up every morning to a cute good morning text and how he hopes you have a good day, and dream of the day when you’ll actually be saying good morning to his face instead of your iPhone screen, but unfortunately that day never comes.
6. The communication fades quickly
You just started getting used to him being in your life, and then as quickly as he came, he disappeared. This has all the makings of a potential relationship, but it never actually gets there.
7. He’s special to you in his own way
It’s exciting when you get all the signs that the guy you’re talking to likes you. So you begin to show interest, you talk, you vibe and you try to make plans…but nothing comes from it. Later on in life you will look back on him as a guy who taught you what you want from your next man. The man you hopefully actually get to date.
8. You have no idea what happened
You start the process of getting to know someone in hopes of forming a relationship with him, but the only memories you are left with are a string of texts to scroll back upon and try to answer the question of “why didn’t it work?” The whole experience was a complete waste of time and a very weird relationship to have had with someone. It’s a modern phenomenon that can’t fully be explained. You almost dated, but never did.