One of the biggest things people worry about in college is getting along with their roommate(s). Most incoming college students never have had to live with another person in the same room before, and sometimes arguments can pop up. Some of these arguments cannot be prevented, so here are some ways to resolve troubles that you have with your roommate(s):
Be direct:
Being direct with your roommate(s) about what is bothering you is one of the keys to resolving an argument. Be clear with them and tell them exactly what is bothering you. The only way you can both resolve this together is to talk about it.
Decide how you will avoid conflict in the future:
A lot of new roommates find that they do not communicate well with the person they are living with. Once you figure out what the problem is, make sure to talk about how you will avoid the conflict in the future. This will lessen the chance of the same conflict popping up, and it will bring the two of you closer.
Make sure that you understand each others boundaries:
Talk to your roommate about the boundaries that you would like to keep, especially if one of you is away for the weekend. During my freshman year, I had a roommate who let one of her friends sleep in my bed when I went home one weekend. I was upset about it, but we hadn’t talked about boundaries like that before. Had we talked about it , we could have avoided a lot of conflict.
Having conflict with a roommate(s) is almost inevitable. However, if you have good communication skills and talk to your roommate about the things that bother you, those conflicts can be very minimal.