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It’s O.K. to Follow Your S.O.

The other day, my roommate and I were talking about our summer plans, which lead to a conversation about plans after graduation (scary). We were both weighing the pro’s and con’s of our different options for summer jobs- both of us staying on campus, her going home to work, me going further north to work by my cabin. There were a lot of factors that were influencing each location, but a big one for both of us is where our significant others are going to be working and living for the three month stretch of summer.

 I know how this sounds- another story of young women giving up their wants and needs to follow a boy. But why does it always have to be portrayed in that way? I find the argument true when it comes to people in high school, for example, who base their college destination off of where their partner is going. Basing the next four years of your life off someone is a big choice, but then again, that’s their choice to make. So what’s so bad about wanting to stay close to someone you care about?

While I know I don’t have my whole life planned out at this time in my college career, I feel there are things I am very certain about, and some of them are relationships in my life, romantic or otherwise. There comes a point in any romantic relationship where bigger decisions needs to be made. Sometimes the conversations are nerve-wracking, but they’re things that need to happen. I feel that these decisions are just that: a choice between two people who know what they want and are both confident enough that it is the best choice for them, whatever the outcome may be.

At the end of the day, you shouldn’t have to sacrifice your happiness to make things work in a relationship. The conscious decision of wanting to remain close to each other is something both people should feel comfortable agreeing to. I guess this is a big part of “adulting”, and while it’s a rollercoaster, at least there’s an up for every down and we can enjoy the ride.

Linsey Wolf

Gustavus '20

Hello! My name is Linsey. I study English Education at Gustavus. In my free time I enjoy reading, drinking coffee, spending time with my friends and being outdoors. 
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