A Letter to my Transgender Friend

Hello my friend,

 

While this may not seem like the letter you were expecting to come up on your feed today, here it is. I wanted to first get some of these feelings off my chest and I’m not sure on how this should all come out. When we met for the first time I knew we would get along just fine. We were the kind of people to gossip and joke around about anything we wanted. It was something I loved very much. We use to have get-togethers and most importantly, eat great food. Now, things have changed but it's not because of your transition, but because life gets in the way.

And I really wish life just didn’t get in the way. It grew and morphed into a life I wasn’t ready for. Neither of us was, really. I just miss the way we were before life was so complicated. I wish I could just see you every day or gossip with you before class. I miss the times when we could see each other down the hall. Today, it feels like we are miles apart.

There’s something that’s been on my mind. I’m just going to start this…

I know your transition isn’t my decision. It isn’t my life, it’s yours. And I would never say it’s what’s stopping us from talking, but at times I keep my distance. I don’t know what to say. I don’t know how to act. I’m not sure I’ll say the right words in all the right spots. I don’t want to lose my friend because of some stupid thing I said or even something I didn’t. My respect for you is mountainous, is there something I can do to be better? I’m not sure what is right to ask or what is simply too private. I’m just interested in who you are and where you’re going, just as I’ve always been.

I hope this process will make you feel as amazing as I know you are. I hope it makes you, you. I hope this transition brings you peace. And while I miss the old you, I love the new you. The new you is just as funny, charming and silly. The new you is happier and brighter. The new you is the real you.

I guess what I’m trying to say is I can’t wait to get to know the new you like I knew the old you.

 

Love and kindness

     A.