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To The Girl He Cheated With

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Gettysburg Contributor Student Contributor, Gettysburg College
Juliette Sebock Student Contributor, Gettysburg College
This article is written by a student writer from the Her Campus at Gettysburg chapter and does not reflect the views of Her Campus.

Inspired by To The Boy That Cheated On His Girlfriend

I’m told the three of you were friends before.  That disturbs me.  

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Believe it or not, I’ve been where you are before.  The other woman, the home wrecker, I’ve heard it all.  

I met him outside of the context of his relationship.  When I found out, she was still a faceless name.  This doesn’t excuse my actions in the least, but it certainly doesn’t make me as terrible a person as you.  

Friendship requires a few things:  trust, affection, loyalty, to name a few.  You betray each of these and more for the sake of some meaningless guy.  

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One time, maybe you can claim that it was the heat of the moment.  Maybe you can repair that friendship.  But repeated offenses—knowing she knew—knowing you were hurting her, there’s no turning back.  

At that point, it’s cruel.  Attempting to keep up appearances is humorous. At that point, you distance yourself as much as you can and, if anything, you beg forgiveness.  At least that’s what a decent person would do.  

I learned from my mistake, though it doesn’t make it better.  I don’t claim innocence, but you’re far removed from apology.  Stop trying to make yourself feel better and accept that what you did was wrong.  You’ll feel better, trust me.  

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Juliette Sebock, Founder: Jules founded the Gettysburg College chapter of Her Campus in Fall 2015 and served as Campus Correspondent until graduating in Spring 2018.

Juliette graduated from Gettysburg College in 2018 with an English major and History/Civil War Era Studies/Public History triple minors. In addition to HC, she was a member of the Spring 2017 class of Advanced Studies in England and of various organizations including Eta Sigma Phi, Dance Ensemble, and Poetry Circle.

She has published a poetry chapbook titled Mistakes Were Made, available on Amazon and Goodreads, and she has poems forthcoming in several literary magazines. She is also the editor-in-chief of Nightingale & Sparrow Magazine and runs the lifestyle blog, For the Sake of Good Taste. For more information, visit https://juliettesebock.com.