What is shacking up? Well, I’m glad you asked. The definition of shacking up is as simple as they come, it means living together without being married. While getting married in the future isn’t everyone’s preference, others may fill a little different about this real but touchy subject. Just in case you’re thinking about possibly taking things to that next level with your potential “Bae,” here are 3 reasons why you might want to slow it down a little.
1) It makes your significant other lazy
I know you’ve heard the term “Why buy the milk when I can get the cow for free?” Marriage is by far the biggest commitment a person can make to his or her partner. (Women specifically) Shacking up can take the “spark” out of things. It’s just like a job interview. you get all dressed up, and look your best hoping you get the job you’ve been dying for, Once you get the job, and you’re comfortable, I imagine you’re not going to wear that two piece suit you had on during the interview, you’re going to throw on maybe some nice slacks and a polo shirt. The point is if you make a guy too comfortable, he’s going to feel like he doesn’t have to work for it anymore.
2) Your relationship will probably end sooner than you think
Well we all know even getting married doesn’t last sometimes, just because you decide to take that route and get married before you decide to move in with him or her does not mean your relationship will last forever. Studies show that couples who lived together before they get married are more likely to get divorced before couples who haven’t lived together before. It’s all about timing, moving in a relationship too fast will end the relationship just as fast.
3) Legality Matters
All I’m saying is, you’re already giving up all of your “husband/wife” duties to your boyfriend, baby mama, baby daddy, girlfriend etc… so you might as well get something out of it! The bottom line is, in life, married or not, some relationships just don’t last. If you’ve invested your time, money and emotions into a guy for years and he never decides to marry you, once the relationship is over, you get NOTHING but a broken heart and a broken wallet. Now on the other hand if you’re married and you and your spouse get a divorce, it’s unfortunate, but legally you’re entitled to a percentage of what he has. You may be a little heartbroken afterwards, but you’ll heal soon with your new found wealth that he owes you.