The Power of False Hope
You ever see a guy randomly on the street, he smiles at you when your eyes meet and your initial thought is that he is a nice man? You ever go further to believe that he thinks you are very attractive? You ever met a guy who is super sweet to you and you are convinced that he is into you? Lastly, I promise, have you ever talked to a guy for a few days and he happens to disappear and you decide that you can “ship” the two of you and when he returns, you two are on different wavelengths? This, my wonderful ladies, is the power of false hope.
False hope is a bad girl. She resembles a vine and entraps you to possibilities that do not exist. Listen, you may want things to go one way but naturally if the male in this equation is not there with you and he hasn’t explicitly stated his intentions, then it does not exist. I hate to burst your bubble, but we need to channel the right hope to other aspects of our lives. You might be considering, “How am I so cynical?” Well my beauty queens, I have not only seen it happen to others I have experienced it myself.
Think about this scenario. For once you meet a guy who you are interested in. You two may have kissed, may have fooled around or even done the dirty deed. Then you two hang out, and go out to eat from time to time that are simple to even high-end restaurants and these “dates” really makes you feel like you are in a “relationship”. You two you think are truly connecting. This is where we add the problem. He introduces you to his friends as one of his friends. He makes time to hang out with you and with others. He leaves you to meet other girls and you then realise that you are not the only one. What happens now? You are sad. You are mad. You are even heartbroken. So you decide that it is time to confront him. When you do this he is now flabbergasted. Why my sisters is he flabbergasted? He is flabbergasted because he thought you two were friends. Just friends. Nothing more than just friends so he did not expect you to be in the position that you placed him in.
Now you feel dumb and look a bit nonsensical and you try to salvage what is left of your friendship. You drunk text him. You drunk sext him you even call him during booty call hours. You, love, have even gone back to just sleeping with him because boys are not the smartest tools in the shed when it comes to these moments. Here is where you think that now you two are really together.
Ladies this is not healthy whatsoever. You are the one left hurt, friendless and even swearing off men completely. In order to curb the power of you falsified hope, you need to take things for face value. Trust me you will worry less. Have no expectations. Make yourself enjoy the moment of when it actually happens because you are not prepared for it. When the date, then the kiss and then the relationship appears you are dumbfounded. You are more excited and you must NEVER allow false hope to join the party especially when things are going too well because this girl can make you look crazy. Wanna know why? Because, honey, when taking a fabrication, a falseness as the truth makes you become the “crazy ex” real quick.
But let us talk about the good hope. Your bae. When she comes into your life, she can help steer your life in the right direction. You can achieve greatness with her and you should use her services for school purposes and becoming a success in your life. But remember in order to have hope present, you need to work for her.