Do Love Languages Make or Break Relationships?

According to Dr. Gary Chapman, writer of The 5 Love Languages: The Secret to Love That Lasts and creator of the 5 love language couple questionnaire, there are 5 love languages: Words of Affirmation, Acts of Service, Receiving Gifts, Quality Time, and Physical Touch. His research asserts that the 5 love languages aforementioned have an impact on all relationships and determines whether or not they are long-lasting.

 

I have taken the 5-love language couple questionnaire before and I can attest to its accuracy. The questions are constructed in a way that allows the user to do a bit of introspection. If you are taking a couple’s quiz, you have to consider what is meaningful to you in your relationship with someone else. Capturing the essence of what is important to you in a relationship makes room for everyone’s needs in the relationship to be met.

 

Love languages are a vital part of relationships and establishing what those are for you and your partner(s) can help things flow easier. It’s also important to remember that your love language can change over time as you continue to change and communicating that to everyone involved will make room for growth and aid you in laying a solid foundation for your relationship.

If you and your partner(s) have different love languages, it doesn’t mean that you all won’t be a great fit for each other, it just means that you communicate love differently. As long as you communicate what you need in order to feel loved, and your partner(s) are willing (and able!) to make sure your needs are met romantically, a meaningful, and long-lasting relationship could still be achieved with work. Focusing on each other's differences can really make you feel stuck if you have a different love language from your partner. Remaining mindful of the commonalities between the parties involved can satisfy everyone’s desires within the relationship.

 

Communicating your wants, feelings, and desires on a deeper level with your partner makes room for them to show up for you as you do the same for them. Relationships, of all sorts, work on a matter of giving and take and it's important to make sure you give intentionally and honestly as you receive the same.