Is love at first sight actually possible? Or is it just a myth created to give hope to girls who haven’t yet met their perfect match? Is it possible to be walking down the street, make eye contact with some guy, and know that he is “the ONE”? Girls, let’s be honest. HECK NO! I’m no pessimist, but love at first sight is simply a fairy tale. While infatuation and sexual desire may come from laying eyes on some beauty of a man, you’ve got to at least have a conversation with a guy before deciding you love him. Would I be in love if I happened to bump into Bradley Cooper at Yates? Um, my first instinct says YES! But, in reality is what I’m feeling love? No!
So here is our next dilemma: what is love? Now, some of you reading this may think you know what love is because you’ve experienced it with a boyfriend in college, high school, or maybe even junior high (lol!). But girls, do you really know? I thought I was in love once. But the more I think about what love really is, the less convinced I am that I have experienced it.
So, I started searching the internet (because everything on the internet is true, of course!) to figure out the true meaning of love. Here’s what I found:
- Wikipedia defines love as “an emotion or a strong attraction and personal attachment”. If this is love, then I love a lot of things. I love slutty brownies, Moose Track ice cream, homemade pasta sauce, my puppy, my snuggie, and the list continues. If this is the definition of love, is love at first sight real? Sort of. You can definitely experience a strong attraction when spotting a new boy around campus, but you really cannot have a personal attachment… unless you are a little creepy and obsess over strangers when walking down the street.
- Urban Dictionary states that “love is nature’s way of tricking people into reproducing”. Interesting. Well, now do you believe in love at first sight? Still, no! At least I hope you’re not someone that goes around reproducing (let’s call this canoodling) with random people you meet. Talk about a population explosion.
- Webster claims that “love is a warm attachment, enthusiasm or devotion”. Once again, how would it be possible to feel these emotions when you have only laid eyes on the person you are claiming to love? While you may feel a warm attachment (if you are wearing your “beer jacket”), you are truly not experiencing love.
So, there ya have it. I believe that I may form crushes when seeing someone for the first time (by Facebook stalking, looking around the crowded basketball stadium or making eye contact in class) because this has happened multiple times. But, I still do not believe you can fall madly in love with someone after only seeing them once. Love requires a deeper connection. Could you fall head over heals for a stranger you just met after you’ve hung out and actually had a conversation? Yes, but that doesn’t make it love at first SIGHT. We don’t live in a fairy tale here. We actually have to expend a little effort to create love. So, don’t just browse around, go meet some boys!