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I’m beginning this article on Dec. 11, 2020. Currently, I’m self-isolating until I get the results from my COVID test. Spending all of this time by myself has yielded some needed self-reflection, and I’ve come to the conclusion that I need to learn how to be alone.

You see, I’m a very codependent person, so I enlist my friends to do all of my errands with me (as I don’t like to be alone). This is great and all, and usually I end up having a blast, but realistically my friends won’t always be atmy beck and call … meaning I should probably get good at being (and doing things) on my own. 

I got the idea for this article when I woke up with a sore throat a couple of days ago and had to call my doctor’s office as a result. The very nice receptionist explained to me that I needed to go to an Urgent Care in Rochester in order to get a COVID examination. This was all fine and dandy until the nice receptionist informed me that I had to go alone since I’m (technically) an adult. 

I immediately began to panic. 

Sure, I’ve been to MY doctor’s office by myself, but I’d never gone (or driven) to an Urgent Care in Rochester without my mom. I expressed this to the receptionist, and she reassured me that it’s not so bad, and even gave me step by step directions to my destination. 

After I hung up, I put on a coat and headed out into the world, by myself. And you know what? Once I got there, everything was okay. I checked myself in, waited in the waiting room, saw the nurse practitioner and the doctor, got a COVID test and was on my way. Being by myself wasn’t that bad. Actually, it was kind of nice. On my drive home I began to wonder, “what else have I been missing out on simply because I don’t let myself be by myself?”. 

That gave me an idea; once my COVID-test comes back, if it’s negative I want to (safely) go out into the world and do things that I usually would ask my friends to do with me, by myself. Obviously, I can’t do any of these things until my results come back, so while I wait I’ve devised a list of things that I want to do, given that I’m COVID free. 

  1. I want to go get my ears pierced by myself.

  2. I want to sit in a coffee shop and work on schoolwork by myself.

  3. I want to go Christmas shopping by myself. 

  4. I want to go grocery shopping by myself. 

  5. And finally, I want to go look at holiday lights by myself. 

It's now Tuesday Dec. 15 and I found out on Saturday that I am COVID free, so today I decided to go do some of the things on my list! I went Christmas shopping on Main Street in Geneseo, and it was so nice to just go at my own pace. I didn’t have to worry about feeling rushed or going too slow, and I was able to buy things for the friends that I usually would drag along with me!  

Then I went and sat at Crickets (sans homework) and enjoyed a festive beverage. At first, I was really self-conscious and kept thinking to myself “everyone is looking at me” when in reality, nobody cared that I was drinking a nice peppermint mocha latte all by my lonesome. Honestly, almost everyone at the coffee shop was working or enjoying a warm cup of joe without anyone else’s company! I finished my coffee, and on my way out I came to the realization that I felt more relaxed than before I entered the cafe. 

Next on my list of things to do was get my ears pierced. Unfortunately, the piercing shop in Geneseo was closed when I stopped by, and I didn’t have time to wait for it to open. While this may be a bit disappointing (as it was #1 on my list of things to do,) I made an appointment to get a tattoo done in Webster, which I plan to attend by myself next Monday (mostly because of COVID, but it’s the thought that counts). 

To round out my afternoon excursion, I stopped in at Wegmans and picked up some groceries. I think this was probably the weirdest I felt being by myself, but only because I work at the store. But with that being said, I picked up some Chobani yogurt, granola and some cranberry juice. It felt good to be buying my own groceries, even if it only came out to be like $9. 

While I did almost everything on my list, there’s still one thing left to cross off: going to see Christmas lights. I plan on doing this a bit later in the week, and therefore cannot detail my experience in this article :( (I’m sure I’ll have a great time though!). 

Even though some things didn’t go according to plan, I’m still very happy with this makeshift experiment that I created. In the end, nobody cared that I was doing these things by myself, and I ended up enjoying the experience much more than I anticipated.  

Julia is a senior Communication Major at Geneseo! She loves to write and is so elated that Her Campus lets her do just that. Julia will forever mourn the loss of her favorite band, One Direction.
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