Often times, when people leave we find ourselves angry, upset, or frustrated. It can be hard to understand the will of someone else’s life and why they choose to leave or take a step back from any relationship, but is it possible that it could end up being a good thing?
When people we are close to leave, we get upset. It is a natural occurrence and a completely normal reaction, yet we beat ourselves up over being upset and find ways to react to the situation. As humans, we grasp and crave connection and when we find people that we can connect or bond with, it can be especially hard when they decide to take a step back from the relationship.
Maybe you haven’t had anyone take a step back from any of your relationships. Maybe you were the one who took a step back. If you are anything like me, the moment I take a step back from something in order to benefit myself, I instantly feel guilty. We live in a society that tells us to continue to put up with things in order to make the general population happy.
Maybe you don’t want to break up with your toxic partner because you have been together for so many years and you wouldn’t know how to continue on without them. Maybe you don’t want to end a friendship that isn’t beneficial to either party anymore because you both have mutual friends and you don’t want them to pick any sides. Whatever the case may be, often times, we find ourselves staying in destructive or harmful relationships in order to not cause any issues, but that actually ends up causing more issues.
For whatever reason, if a relationship is not helping you grow, it is not beneficial. If a relationship is not making you a better person, it is not beneficial. If a relationship is tearing your down (emotionally, physically, mentally, or spiritually), it is not beneficial. Take time to review your friendships and relationships; make sure that you don’t get caught up in a web that could cause some serious damage.
The most important takeaway is that you matter. Your opinions, feelings, and regards matter just as much as everyone else; so, do not belittle yourself or make your feelings smaller or insignificant to please everyone else.
Taking time to refocus on yourself and your goals can be a very good thing. Re-focusing without any negativity in your life can increase your productivity and may even allow new light and opportunities you would have never been aware of! Take time to put yourself first for once and see what possibilities await on your path. Reduce the negativity in your life and focus on any and all positives that may be waiting on your doorstep. So, take a step back and look at all of the relationships in your life, are you being beneficial to them? Are they growing you into a better person? Take time to evaluate and check in with those around you in order to see just what lies ahead.