Back in 2016 I wrote an article about being single and owning it. That article was written when I was 19 years old and hadn’t expericned anything connected or inchng towards the dealings of a reationship or dating. Three years later and now I have, so I thought I come back to that topic, and change up a few things to reflect my current view on the single life.
If you are ever concerned with being alone or single, don’t be. As a twenty-something in college, being single is one of the many glorious moments that college could offer. Socially that is. Sure, it has come to that time where it seems as though everyone around you is in a relationship or getting married, but you don’t need to fret! Say good for them for finding someone and pat yourself on the back for still looking. If you are looking. There are so many single people around you, all you have to do is ask and maybe you could make a new friend to go on this adventure with. You’re not alone and you are not going to be single forever. Although, there is nothing wrong if you are because you can still be a stong, fierce, and independent woman!
Take it from me. I have been single since the dawn of time and that is NOT an exaggeration. I was a late bloomer to society’s standards, but for my own I was comfortable and right on time. There was a point that I thought I was dating someone, but that turned out to be false, and now I use that as a moment to look back on and learn from. Currently, I have come to terms with being single, but back three years ago I really wasn’t okay with it. Not matter what I said or didn’t say. I’m speaking the truth now. I was trying to find myself with so many wrong and despicable people, that I really lost sight of my true self. I’m 22 now, and I have yet to have been in a serious relationship, or with someone who has really liked me for me, and not other reasons. Given recent events that have happened in my life that have catapulted me to this point, I’m just going to do me, and if you have had a tough time just do you as well. I have the rest of my life ahead of me to find someone. It hasn’t been while I have been in college, but I know for certain it will be in the next years to come. I’m not putting pressure on myself or anyone, but I know that right now I’m not meant to be with anyone, but I also know that this isn’t a forever thing. Being single that is.
I promise you this, these are our prime years to find ourselves, make mistakes, and really go above and beyond with whatever we want to do. However, if you are going to make mistakes, make sure that you are safe, and they don’t turn into long lasting ones. Also remember, that no one is worth you getting all worked up over. Leave pettiness at the door the minute you walk away from them, or metaphorically walk away from them. I speak from experience, and if it is done in a messy way it will leave you hurting more that empowered. Which, being single should empower you to find the person you truly want to be, so you don’t have to find yourself through someone who isn’t right for you.
Just remember that the true and only key to being single is accepting that it’s not going to last forever…But while it does, OWN IT. I know that as humans we all need that special connection of human touch to make it through most days, but that’s also what friends are for. Calling all single ladies: it’s time to hit up your loyal friends, and not that scrub from downtown. Have a drink and laugh with them! Embrace the single life now, so when time has come and gone you won’t have regrets. At least this won’t be one anyway.
Take time for yourself and focus on you. All that matters right now in the world, or in your world at least, is you. Don’t be afraid to be single. Don’t feel guilty for not wanting to date or like someone. If you need to do you, do you.
I hope this helped for someone in some way. We all need to take time and reflect on our past and learn from it!