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Welcome to the latest in relationships, sex, love and dating. Introducing, “The Scoop with Szmuc” (Smook) and no, that’s not pronounced schmuck. Every week we’re giving our readers an opportunity to send in their questions to Her Campus FSU staff writer and relationship guru Sharon Szmuc relating to the theme of the week. Valentine’s Day being this Sunday we decided to focus on the different kinds of relationship scenarios. Today: the Honeymoon Phase!
Have you finally been wifed up? Did that guy you’ve been dating for four months finally give you the title after singing endless hours of Megan Trainor’s “Title” to him? If this is the case then you’re finally spending Valentine’s Day together. Now you start to wonder what he’s getting you, that you need to book a wax appointment soon but all the wax places are booked, and that you need to try on 30 outfits of lingerie at Victoria Secret until you find the sexiest one of them all. Whatever your worries are about the holiday of love, sex and unlimited amount of heart shaped candy—stop freaking out. I am here to help you make this the best day you and bae will have. Plus you’re not the only one whose been cuffed lately, many people have just started dating and are looking for ways to continue to the honeymoon phase too!
Jessica S*., 21
I’ve been dating my boyfriend for a month, but I really don’t know what to get him or what we should do for Valentine’s Day. He’s not really the romantic type. Any ideas? HELP!
Dear Jessica,
If it’s been only a month of you two dating it means that you’re probably still having sex 24/7, calling each other every night and seeing each other way too much. Your friends probably even joke and say, “Oh, hey stranger.” It’s only because the first month of a relationship is the most exciting. You get to finally tell the world (and all your social media outlets—and your mother) that you finally found a nice boy to make you happy and that you won’t die alone with your cat, Mocha. So this is the perfect opportunity to use Valentine’s Day as a date to continue to make the flame of that fire continue to burn. How do you do this?
First, go get a wax (or shave—just don’t use any of those self-wax equipment because you’re not a professional waxer and you never will be). Second, plan a fun date where you can both act like you’re five. The best date I’ve ever planned was a scavenger hunt where each spot we went to we either ate, bought or gathered something we needed later in the night: like condoms from CVS, whip cream from Publix, pizza from Gumby’s, candles from Walmart and even some wine from the liquor store. Whatever place you choose, the fun date can eventually lead to some fun down time! It’s your first Valentine’s Day together, so don’t be afraid to be cute even if you think you’re over doing it, he’ll still adore you. Guys love cute s*** as much as they don’t want to admit it, but throwing in some head in there or a nice massage won’t be a bad idea, either.
Sara A*., 20
I’ve been dating this guy for three months, but we aren’t really official yet but basically act like girlfriend and boyfriend. Do I still get him something for Valentine’s Day or plan anything?
Dear Sara,
I know the title of a girlfriend means that you have to get your boyfriend something, but even if you don’t have a title I still think you can give him a little gift (and not just in bed). Maybe you can buy him a heart shaped cookie at Ms. Field’s or you can invite him to the movies, or even write him a cute card. Couples are really conventional nowadays and just because you don’t have the title doesn’t mean you shouldn’t continue to share memories with someone that gives you hearts in the eyes (or an orgasm—hey, it’s possible!). At the time of my boyfriend’s birthday we weren’t official yet but I still got him a birthday gift (an OVO sweater because he’s a huge Drake fan). So think of something he loves, maybe you can get him a shirt with his favorite band on it, or write him a poem (if he’s an English major) or if he loves to party get him a personalized flask.
You never know, though you’re not official yet he might be waiting to pop the question at dinner on Valentine’s Day or something—just please, do not have expectations because you might be really disappointed if the only thing he gets you is a box of chocolates and flowers. But, hey at least he thought of something and that’s all we want out of men anyway, right? Just don’t worry about titles and the standard ideas of what Valentine’s Day means, but if he is a virgin – you should totally take away his virginity as a gift. Just kidding! Whatever gift he gives you, at least you know that he wanted to spend this holiday with the girl that makes him happy, happy enough to be dating her for three months and counting, title or not.
For next week’s theme, First Dates, Sharon will be answering questions on everything you need to know about first dates, what to wear, how to act, where to go, what moves to make and whether the first date will lead to a second date.
Whatever the case may be, submit your questions to hercampusfsu1@gmail.com stating your first name, last name, first initial and age by midnight this Thursday, Feb. 11. If you would like to be published anonymously, we can do that as well. Just ask when you submit! The first three people to submit questions will receive a free beauty product, which may come in handy to seduce the guy you met at Coliseum last weekend! Remember, girls and guys are encouraged to send in questions, so stop swiping right and ask away!
*Names have been changed to protect identity.