Featured Letter by Steph from Atlanta, GA
Dear Madame Mary: I am an Aries (March 27th) and I’ve had three serious relationships – all three guys have been VERY insecure and jealous. The first was a Virgo, the second was also a Virgo, and the third was a Scorpio. I am currently dating a Sagittarius and I really want it to go somewhere and by all means want to avoid the insecurity! What do you predict?
Steph,
The most important thing when it comes to love matches is where Venus is placed on your star chart. You have Venus in fun-loving Aquarius. You are probably a partier who is very healthy. This may seem contradictory, but this placement of the love planet is a blessing for your health. As long as you take care of yourself about 80% of the time, your body will always be in good shape. On the flip side, this placement means your self-worth will constantly change. You will need to be reassured that you deserve the love and favors that you receive from your partners and friends. This would be an indicator that the signs in your quadrant are very positive influences for you. Libra (Sept. 22nd – Oct. 21st), Leo (July 21st – Aug. 20th), and Aquarius (Jan. 21st – Feb. 19th) are honest analyzers. You will always know where you stand with them, and how much they value you.
As far as these insecure boys, let’s begin with our Virgos. Aries is a fire sign, while Virgo is an earth sign. Virgos are typically insecure in relationships. They look to their partner for the entirety of their personal validation. They are deeply loving, and enjoy foreplay outside the bedroom. Aries is attractive and flirtatious and fast when it comes to relationships. Your Aries love cyclone will sweep Virgos right off their feet, but they will instantly distrust you. You’ll hear things from Virgo lovers like, “You’re too attractive for me” and “That guy was totally checking you out.” You are used to a lot of attention from the opposite sex, and Virgo male will NOT like that. Virgos are also very careful about the lovers they choose. The fact that they picked you speaks volumes to your worth, but they would never say as much. Virgos will feel like a spandex cocoon to your fiercely independent personality. They will hold on so tightly they quench your fire.
Scorpio male, on the other hand, is inherently jealous and territorial. They are highly emotional, but can be really fun sexual partners for Aries. Scorpio is the man to fulfill your fantasies with, but will never be the best boyfriend for Aries female. Where Virgo suffocates Aries, water sign Scorpio will quench your fire. If Scorpio has to knock your confidence down a few levels to ensure you know that, he will. Aries is more likely to be criticized and controlled by her Scorpio boyfriend, and that’s just because he’s afraid he won’t be able to control the blaze you likely set on your social scenes.
Now for some good news: Sagittarius is a fire sign with the motto “I understand.” The key factor to any Sag is figuring out what their one, grounding belief in life is. Sagittarius are very attracted to religion and personal health, but their belief does not have to be one of those. If you’re not sure what it is, ask, “Is there anything in your life you know for certain?” My mom is a Sag, and 100% of the time she’ll tell you, “The ability to learn is power.” Once you’ve located this believe with you man, you will always know where your Archer is coming from. Sagittarius is reliable, honest, and playful. They love to try to things sexually, but they don’t usually delineate between sex and love. Most of the time, your Sagittarius will want a relationship before having sex. For you, this will be worth the wait. The sex will be new and exciting every time. Sagittarius is open and wants to understand you as a person. This is just the guy to keep you interested. The only possible negative for you is that Sagittarius are competitive and unlikely to reassure you when you’re feeling down about yourself. Overall, this is an excellent match! This is a way for you to fight fire with fire.