I’ve always believed myself to be a bit of a hopeless romantic. The cheesy, predictable romantic movies, a bouquet, love notes… the whole thing. I mean, it’s not necessarily a bad thing. I think most women want to feel loved and appreciated. However, being a hopeless romantic in college is a completely different story. I want to make this clear, it’s not that I necessarily want to find my “person” right now, it’s just the brainwashed mentality my mind has every time I develop a crush when someone holds a door open for me. Being a hopeless romantic may not seem like an issue, which, inherently it isn’t. The struggle is dealing with it in today’s college hookup culture. Many guys this age pride themselves on the number of girls they can sleep with. So, that’s cool and all, I understand college is the time to explore different types of experiences and people. In my opinion, college is arguably the worst time to look for a serious relationship because so many people are still finding themselves—which is normal.
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Having patience is one of the biggest things I have learned if you are unsure about dating in college. If you have occasional feelings of loneliness, remember that you are young. You have a lifetime to fall in love, but you only have now to travel, explore and embrace every minute you have without a serious commitment. Also, yes, you can totally find the love of your life in college and if you have, then props to you. Consider yourself lucky for finding your person at such a young age. I hope the ceiling fan falls on you next time you’re cuddling—but as I was saying, if you haven’t, that’s okay.
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This is the time to prioritize yourself so fall in love with yourself first. Take yourself on dates, get your nails done, get in shape, join an organization, hang out with your girlfriends or guy friends and save that little fragile heart of yours. It’s often frustrating that in our young society we have to hold back feelings to protect ourselves. It may sound weird, but sometimes you should. Unless you are serious about someone, having a pointless distraction of someone else, who you don’t really even like, on top of classes, clubs, work and friends is just too much. Get your fix of rom coms and dress up and go out every once in a while. Date yourself until your serious about dating someone else. There are some pretty great people out there and I promise that special love will find you. This is me, a twenty-year-old, sharing my wisdom on love and relationships. We’re all still learning and growing and trying to figure our sh*t out. And for my other fellow hopeless romantics—stay strong out there.
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