I have always been bad at reaching out to my friends first, making plans first, or just communicating in general. I will happily talk to or hang out with any one of my friends, but only after they text or ask me first. It is something I have sort of struggled with for a while.
I have the bad habit of staying close to those that are close to me location-wise and drifting away from those who aren’t. A great example of this is my roommate Julia, who is one of my best friends. I have known her since I was a few months old, and she was one of my best friends in middle school. When high school rolled around, we ended up at different schools. Even though she lived in the same neighborhood as me, I barely talked to her. I hung out with her when she invited me places, but I rarely initiated it. Now that the two of us are at Florida State and I see her every day, she’s back to being my closest friend. She isn’t the only one that something like this has happened to.
So, when it came time to go off to college, I was worried about losing all the amazing people I grew close with in high school. I tried to force conversations and maintain countless unnecessary streaks, but one day I realized it is okay to drift from some of those friends and live separate lives. You don’t need to stay close with everyone you interacted with in high school, but I know I could see any one of them tomorrow and it would feel like no time had passed.
This doesn’t mean I cut off all communication with all the people I was close with. I still talk to many of my friends that I had in high school, some of them on a daily basis. It could be little things like sending each other things on Instagram every so often or texting every chance you get. Don’t just decide to stop talking to everyone you were once close with, but also don’t be afraid to let people go.
So, here is a little message to all my friends I have lost touch with: I am so grateful for the amount of love and happiness you have brought me. You all have a special place in my heart. Please feel free to reach out whenever and know that I am working on doing the same. I am so beyond excited to see where your life takes you!
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