The end of a relationship can be extremely difficult, no matter how long you were together. A relationship is an investment of time and commitment to someone that you (hopefully) care about. There are certain cases where things are not meant to work out. You are able to learn from these situations. And as much as it hurts, it is okay to move on with your life.
I was in a relationship with someone for over 2 years. I swore up and down that no matter how many times he hurt me, or we hurt each other, that he was the love of my life. I truly thought that we were meant to be together. When he ended things for the second time, he didn’t even bother to tell me things were ending. He just disconnected and disappeared.
I had known in my heart for a while that it wasn’t meant to be. I had tried ending it not too long before. It is difficult to be in a relationship where there is distrust and a lack of communication. It took me a while to realize that I deserved better.
It doesn’t only pertain to romantic relationships. Whether it is your parents, your friends, colleagues, coworkers, whomever, sometimes a toxic relationship can prevent you from growing. Sometimes it is the people who are closest to us who shouldn’t be.
Even though the ending of a relationship can be heart wrenching and painful, it is okay to move past it as quickly or as long as it feels comfortable for you. It is okay to move on. It is natural to find someone new or to feel as if you will never feel the same again. It is okay to be scared, but don’t be afraid to take a leap of faith and try something new over a fear of getting hurt.
Go on that date with a new person. Go apply for that job. Join that club or take that class no one wanted to take with you. Go renovate your room or revamp your wardrobe. Do something new. Find who you are without that old person in your life. You will always be you, but there will always be new chapters to your story.
You will never know what the future has in store, but you can surely find out. It is okay to move on. It is okay to make a change. It is okay to lose yourself, find yourself, and be who you are. Just because a relationship ends doesn’t mean that everything is over. It just means that a new chapter of your life is beginning. Take it as a blessing in disguise. No matter what pain you go through, it will make you stronger in the end.