I don’t really like being told what to do. Yes, I like rules and order in my life. Honestly, if you ask me nicely something you need done, I’ll definitely do it. I’ll probably do it even if you ask not so nicely. Okay, so, yeah I kind of prefer being told what to do. However, this is never the case when it comes to what I should be doing with my life. I hate it when people tell me what to do with my future. I’ll be the one to decide that, thank you. It’s not anybody’s business but mine.
One example is that at this stage of my life, I have no idea if I want to be a parent one day, if ever (if I do have children in the future, I am so sorry future children, Mom didn’t know what the future held). I’m only twenty years old, how should I know with the limited experience with children I have had if I want to bring more into the world? What if I want to focus on building a career before settling down to have a family? More importantly, why do people feel like it’s their business or have to give me their opinion on the subject? I don’t want to hear “but you’ll be a great mother” or “you’ll change your mind soon.” I feel like I should have the final say in the matter of having the extremely huge responsibility of raising a human being to be a decent member of society.
I’m going to admit another thing about myself; sometimes I don’t really know what I want to do career wise. I’d love to work in television, be a writer, and other days I dream of being an art curator. I like having multiple possibilities. What I don’t like is people suggesting what I should do as a profession. “You were also good at math, you should pursue that.” Thanks, distant family member I rarely talk to, I’ll keep that in mind. But here’s the problem, I don’t want to pursue a career in math, I don’t like it that much. Did you ever think of that?
I’ve also had people tell me in the past that I shouldn’t be in college. “It’s a waste of your time! You don’t need it!” Well, actually, I do. I want to be in college despite the high tuition and stress. Also, how does it affect you that I’m going to school? Because it’s a little too late to convince me now, pal.
I understand that these people believe they’re being helpful or at least trying to be. However, it doesn’t always come across as an act of kindness, but rather an attempt to control big parts of another person’s life. Just like you have the right to stick your nose in my business, I have the right to not like it and tell you to stop. I beg of you, don’t tell me what to do with my life.