Its taken me a long time to accept my feelings for what they are, negative or positive. In the past I’ve tried to ignore them, I’ve tried to pick at them like they were flaws and I’ve let them consume my thoughts and how I rationalize things. It almost seemed like no matter what I did, I couldn’t control how I was feeling.
I am the type of person who takes things way too personally. I let people affect me in ways they shouldn’t. I go through phases where all I want to do is be around people that I love and then where all I want to do is be alone. I struggle on a daily basis with feeling like people want me to be around them and like I am understood and accepted. I fluctuate between being sad and being happy in ways that I sometimes cannot comprehend. And most of the time I let my sad emotions get the best of me when I know I shouldn’t.
When I have these types of emotions I sometimes think to myself, if I can barely understand why I am like this, how can someone else?
But I’ve learned over time that it’s not about having other people understand you and the way you’re feeling. It’s about you understanding how you’re feeling. I used to think that I was the only person who would go through these rollercoaster rides of emotions, but I know for a fact that I am not and you are not alone either.
In reality, we can’t always be happy all the time. From my personal experiences, I’ve learned that it’s ok to be sad when you need to be. It is normal. We as women, and as humans, go through our emotions like waves. When I’m at a low point of that wave, I like to think of it as a time to reflect on what is making me feel the way I am and how I can change it.
Although you can choose to let yourself sulk in your current emotions whether it is feeling unwanted, feeling alone, or whatever brings you down, it’s about what you do after that will make a difference in how you approach your emotions.
Doing the things that make you happy and bring you back up when you’re down instead of consuming yourself in things that make you sad will truly change how you’re feeling, I’ve learned. If working out is something that makes you happy and de-stresses you, go for it. If having a much needed sleepover with your friends that remind you that you are loved and wanted will help, call them up! If taking some time to yourself is what you need, by all means it’s ok. Always remember that speaking about how you feel to someone you can confide in, even if it’s just for them to listen, will make you feel better 100% of the time.
I still have these types of feelings all the time, and it does affect me. But, by changing how you tackle your emotions and doing things that will make you happy, you can really overcome anything.
XOXO,
Adri
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