Relationships can be tiresome, especially in college. Honestly, it’s probably easier to be single than to be in a relationship. However, some of us prefer to be in relationships and that’s a-ok! I’m one of those people that has always been in a long-term relationship (5 years and counting!) One of the questions I’m constantly asked is “How do you do it?” And sometimes, I don’t even know how to answer because I have no idea how we’ve made it last this long. After asking my partner what he believes makes a relationship last, I’ve narrowed it down to 3 things.
Trust
If you’re in a relationship then you might already know that a good foundation to any new relationship is trust. To quote White Chicks “We can’t have love if we ain’t have trust.” No one wants a partner who has to constantly checking up on you to see if you’re with anyone else. Trust allows your partner to be respected and makes them feel valued in the relationship.
Communication
I cannot stress this enough! Communication is one, if not the most, important part of any relationship. Arguing might be a sign of a healthy relationship according to Business Insider, but too much of it can do more harm than good. I’m the type that will give you the silent treatment for 5-10 minutes before willing to talk to you. If you need a second to cool off after a heated argument then do so, but do not avoid discussing the situation! Not happy with something? Communicate it.
Space
For new relationships, it tends to be a habit to always be around each other. This is understandable because it’s the start of something new. However, once you’ve hit a certain point in the relationship, being together 24/7 might become a little exhausting. Sorry honey but it’s true! Call your friends, plan a day and take some time away from your significant other. Not only will this give you the breather you desperately needed, but it will allow you both to miss each other a bit more which is recipe for a sweet return, plus you’ll have some chisme to discuss for your next date, haha.
Of course, every relationship is different, what works for you might not work for others. Overall, both parties have to work at making the relationship last. If you’re both putting in the time and effort to making your relationship work, then the rest will be a piece of cake!
Xo,
Natalia
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