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Losing My Virginity to My Best Friend

Going into high school, I knew eventually I was going to lose my virginity. I had imagined it like every girl would, with my high school boyfriend after our senior prom. Instead, I lost it to my best friend right before moving away to a new area. We learned the hard way that you can’t plan something like losing your virginity or something simple like your first kiss. Trust me, we tried.

Before I get into it, let me give you a little bit of background. I met him my freshman year of high school and it wasn’t until my sophomore year that we became extremely close. Maybe it had something to do with the fact that he and my friend were dating or that we just enjoyed each other’s company. Come lunch time, we would always be together, we’d share advice, joke around and even study together. The spark was there but due to the previous relationship he was in with my friend, we weren’t sure if this could actually lead to us being together.

Mid-year we began flirting with each other. Maybe you can relate if you’ve had a best friend that later became your boyfriend. It’s awkward. You don’t know how to switch from that best friend relationship to a more intimate partnership. So, we didn’t, we kept the friendship alongside the relationship.

Why did I lose my virginity to my best friend? Simple, it was easy. There weren’t awkward talks about it and we told each other what we’re comfortable with. Since both of us were virgins we knew that this moment would be something special. I’ve heard so many people say they wish they would’ve waited for someone special, but that was not the case for us. We had that opportunity, unlike many others. When that moment came I was super nervous and I can only assume he was too. I mean, you know a person your whole life and then suddenly you see them in a completely different perspective. 

I’m one of the few people who are lucky enough to have my best friend be my boyfriend. Your best friend is someone that you share everything with, they know your darkest secrets and they’re there for you through the ups and the downs. Sharing that special connection with them that comes from losing your virginity is something that I think made my first time perfect. I didn’t have to work my way up to the bedroom. I know I’ve said it a bunch of times already, but it’s true, it was easy. five and a half years later, we’re still together and anyone that asks me how it started I give them the same answer. I tell them that he was and is my best friend.


Communications major with a love for Disney, coffee, and dogs of all shapes and sizes!
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