By being in a sorority, we gain a lot of amazing things such as, friendships, networking opportunities and philanthropy. But there are some specific events we look forward to every semester that encourages us to pay our dues on time, attend chapters and be on our best behavior. Wether you know them as socials, date dashes, crush parties or formals, these are the events we go crazy for. It’s our time to have fun, let lose and forget about all of our responsibilities for one night. Even though we live for these moments, there is nothing more stressful than trying to find a date.
As soon as the social chair announces the day and time when we have to send in our date information, we all go bananas trying to snatch the perfect date. But what makes the perfect date? It all depends on what type of guy you are looking for. I’ve been in Greek life for 3 years, so I’ve experienced different types of dates and I’ve also seen the types of guys my sisters invite. As much as we don’t like to admit it, not all of our formals or crush parties have been as magical as we want them to be and that can have a lot to do with the type of dates we invite. The best advice I can give is before you choose a date, think about the experience you want to have and if that person will allow you to have your perfect night because at the end of the day, is your event and you deserve to have the best time!
These are 6 types of guys that are usually invited to socials:
1. Your best guy friend
If you want a drama free night with someone you are 100% sure you are going to have a good time with, going with your best guy friend is the way to go. You already know each other so there wont be any awkwardness, plus he most likely knows your sisters so you won’t feel weird leaving him alone when you have to go to the bathroom. He also knows all your good angles so you will have some Instagram worthy pics!
Down side: If you are looking for a romantic end to your night well….this is not your type of date, unless you want to break from the friend zone.
2. Fraternity guy your sisters set you up with
This is a hit or miss type of date. In this situation, the deadline for submitting your date’s information is probably just days away and you have no idea who your going to take. So your sisters give you options of guys they think will match well with you, based on your turn ons, turn offs and personality. They might get it right and you might have the best time ever or they might get it wrong and you can end up having a really awkward time… or even worse, end up taking care of your date. Just know the potential risks that might come of this and hope for the best. Even better, get to know him before the event!
3. GDI boyfriend
If you have a boyfriend then you don’t have to go through the struggle of finding a date, you had him all this time. While all of us are going boy crazy, you’re chilling at home with your man. Another positive note is that it makes for a fun date night! But it’s a different experience when your boyfriend is not affiliated than when he is. Speaking from my experience, when you bring someone who is not costumed to Greek life, he is exposed to a new environment that he might not feel comfortable at first. It might take him a few formals to get used to the vibes and get comfortable with being in a room full of people that all know each other. Also, you will probably spend the entire night ensuring he is having a good time and not feeling left out.
Just note that not everyone is the same. Maybe your BF is a social butterfly, but if that’s not the case, don’t worry. Eventually he will get used to it and who knows, he might fall in love with Greek life and decide to join too!
4. Fraternity boyfriend
Unlike the GDI boyfriend, he knows whats up when it comes to socials. He knows what to expect. You don’t have to worry if he is having a good time or not because this is his environment. Another perk is that there might be some of his brothers invited too, so if you want to dance to Beyonce with your girls you don’t feel bad leaving him alone because he has his boys. You get to spend time with your sisters and with bae. It’s like the best of both worlds!
5. Fraternity Crush
These are the exciting types! It might be that guy you met at the mixer or that guy that always sits with your sisters at the library, either way, you’ve been waiting for a chance to hang out with him and this is it. I mean, what fraternity guy says no to a sorority social? The hard part is getting the courage to ask him knowing that there might be a slight chance he could say no. Pretty scary, but if he replays, “I’m down to go with you”, you’re in the clear! Now, this date can go really good or really bad. He might live up to your expectations as the perfect date or he might end up not being the guy you dreamed about. Either way, you get to go an a date with your crush so why not take the risk?
6. Last minute option
This is the type of date you don’t want to have, and not because he could be a bad date but because it probably means your OG date couldn’t make it. Think about it, you’re getting your hair and make up done when your date texts you that “something came up and he can’t make it anymore.” In that moment, your probably pretty pissed off but you don’t have time to be mad because, believe it or not, there is still time to get another date. Maybe it wasn’t your first choice, but it’s always good to have backup for times like these. Who knows, you might even have a better time than you expected. Hopefully, if you encounter this situation you have enough time to replace him because we’re not all so lucky.
Fun fact: At my first date dash, I was in the bus waiting for my date to show up and he never did. I called him and he said he didn’t know we had to leave so early and that he lived too far to make it. Ouch!