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Why Self-Love is the Best Love

Self-love should be the easiest type of love we give, however we all tend to struggle with the idea of loving our whole self. But why is that so? How could you not love the person you are each second of the day? Why do we have such a hard time seeing the good in the only person that will always be there for us? In a world that can be so judgmental and cruel it’s so important to know that the only important validation you will receive comes from yourself. Self love is so important because…

You realize what you want versus what you need

            Self-love makes you realize that you want that cute guy’s attention but you really need to love yourself. You don’t need approval from others, you just want it. When you don’t have love for yourself you will constantly find yourself wanting approval and attention from others that you just don’t need.

You learn the power of self-acceptance and the feeling of being secure with your whole self

            With self-love comes the power of acceptance. When you practice self-love you embrace your flaws and your weaknesses. You are accepting of yourself and those around you. When you are accepting of yourself you never have to look to others for approval, and you will always feel secure with who YOU are.

You feel more confident saying “No”

            When you love yourself you begin to do less to please others and more to please yourself. No one wants to be put in a situation where you have to turn someone down, however self-love gives you confidence and security to say no.

You always have someone to lean on

            They say that you are the only person that you can count on and that could not be any more accurate. When you love yourself you will always have someone there to get you through. It is so much easier to survive the low points in life when you are your own hero and do not have to wait for someone to save you.

You’re prepared for the best future relationships

            When you practice self-love, you become more confident and accepting of yourself. When you achieve that feeling you are able to go into relationships with a strong sense of self. The way you treat yourself sets the standards for others, so approaching a relationship with a strong sense of self is the best way to go. At the end of the day, no one can provide you with self-love other than yourself. 

Alexis DiZenzo is a motivated Connecticut native. She attends Fairfield University where she is majoring in digital journalism and minoring in marketing. She is currently co-campus corespondent of Fairfield's Her Campus chapter. Along with managing Her Campus Fairfield, Alexis has interned with The Secured Lender Magazine, and NBC Sports. She is a contributing writer for Elite Daily as well as Thought Catalog. In the early stages of her college career, Alexis has taken the initiative to reach far among the stars and achieve goals early on. She has a great sense of editing, writing, publishing, marketing and leadership as well as strong interpersonal skills. (And a fun-loving, outgoing personality!) Alexis' favorite book (and movie) is The Great Gatsby, she lives by the words of Carrie Bradshaw and you could definitely find her on a beach, soaking up the sun. Instagram @alexisdizenzo www.alexisfdizenzo.com
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