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Why I Considered Transferring & Am So Glad I Didn’t

As a second semester sophomore, I do not think I could be any happier than I am now. Staying here was one of the best decisions I have made, not just in my college career but also in the long run. It is difficult for me to think back to freshman year because I did not have the easiest of transitions onto the college scene.

I applied Early Decision to Fairfield, and was dead set on coming here because of what they had to offer: great academics, an abundance of opportunities, a train straight to Manhattan, and a safe and secure campus. Once I got accepted, I could not wait to meet my fellow stags and future besties. I thought of all the amazing things I would accomplish like starting a club, making Dean’s List, studying abroad, and making my family proud. I was moving onto the next big phase in my life by leaving home along with everything I knew.

Freshman year was a big transition: I moved to a new state, met a ton of new people, tried to navigate campus, and still had time for my studies. I was happy to find a friend group comprised of people from orientation and others I met at move-in. Everything seemed great and I thought I was where I wanted to be, but things took a turn for the worst.

My friend group started deteriorating, and I was left outside of it. I did not have many other friends, so I did not know where to turn. I felt completely alone. I went out on the weekends, tried talking to people in my classes and tried to push myself past my comfort zone, but nothing seemed to work. I felt disconnected from those around me and from the Fairfield community in general. I was an outsider looking in. I was doing well in school, had made Dean’s List both semesters of freshman year, but I had nothing else to show for my college experience because it was nonexistent.

Going home for breaks was a blessing because I could be with my family and my dog and be comfortable in my own skin. I would spend time with my childhood friends as they told me their crazy college stories where they were having the time of their lives. They had found a family and a home away from home. While I was happy for them, this made me realize how unhappy I was at school.

I started to look at other schools and cried myself to sleep countless nights. I felt hopeless in a place where anything was supposed to possible. All my experiences were turning me into someone I wasn’t, to the point where I barely recognized the girl in the mirror. After talking to my parents I decided it would be best to stay through sophomore year, so I could give Fairfield a real chance.

So I stuck out the rest of the year, met genuine people I spent most of my time with, and promised myself that if I remained unhappy, I would transfer my first semester of sophomore year. But you know what? I am happy I stayed. I finally found my home away from home at Fairfield. Over time I got to know my way around, met more people and chose to double major and minor. I dedicated myself to staying fit, and will be studying abroad in Florence this fall. Most importantly I have found a family who supports me, cares about me, and helps me be a better person. I feel like I am a part of something bigger than myself, and can see that the next two years are going to be even better than this amazing year has turned out to be. 

Adriana is currently a second semester senior at Fairfield University. She is majoring in Communication and English with a concentration in creative writing as well as a double minor in marketing and women, gender and sexuality studies.