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Dating in the 21st Century: Tips on How to Get Back in the Game

This article is written by a student writer from the Her Campus at F and M chapter.

Bars, classrooms, and dating apps. What do all of these things have in common in the twenty-first century? That’s right, dating in your twenties.

Dating in this day and age can be a struggle at times. Not only is everything different (thank goodness to that glow-up), but you yourself is different. We all would like to think that we have grown up and learned more about ourselves and what we want out of a relationship if that is what you’re looking for. Dating in the twenty-first century just seems to be more complicated, especially since there doesn’t really seem to be any more rules in place. Whether you are looking to get back into the dating game or just looking to see how you can get the best results, here are some tips on where to start.

Tip #1: Who Said That Girls Can’t Start The First Conversation

Whether you are on a dating app or trying to get your flirt on IRL, there’s no reason why you can’t be the first one to start the conversation. In this day and age, us girls should be able to have the freedom to go after what we want without being judged by society as “desperate” or “unconventional.” This is the twenty-first century and if you want to talk to that cute guy across the bar, then you go get ’em sister!

Tip #2: It’s Okay To Not Know What You Want

I don’t know if it’s just me, but I feel like there’s this impression that people are only on dating apps or going to bars/parties because they either want to hook up or start a relationship with someone. Although there isn’t anything wrong with having either one as your main motivation for pursuing someone, I don’t think that people should be discouraged from just seeing how things go and not knowing exactly what they want out of this experience. Dating is just that, an experience. Being in your twenties means that your life has just begun – LITERALLY. Not only are you probably starting to think and plan about the future, but this might also entail where in your dating life you want to be. For some people, this can be scary for multiple reasons, but you are still young and you shouldn’t feel bad or stigmatized for not knowing what you want. Life is a journey and there’s nothing wrong with taking things one step at a time.

Tip #3: Have Fun

Last but not least, don’t forget to have fun! Dating in your twenties is a time for you to not only get to know other people but also yourself! Don’t get too bummed if you don’t meet the right guy right away. Focus on yourself and enjoy the experience!

What’s your favorite dating tip?

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