The saying goes that ‘nice guys always finish last’, and bad boys have a reputation for breaking our hearts, but why are they so enticing? Well, dating a bad boy has its perks, the excitement, the chance to tame them and the hold they inevitably have over us, but are they worth the inevitable heartbreak?
Arguably the most powerful attraction to a bad boy is the thrill of the chase, which keeps you constantly on your toes. He acts uninterested so we try ten times harder to get his attention, we are never aware of how he feels but we still attempt to find out. It is sometimes impossible to know what to expect, so instead we just enjoy the constant roundabout of one week being adored and the next feeling as ignored as the end slices of bread. Essentially, dating a bad boy is like playing a constant game of cat and mouse, but beware not all bad boys want to be caught. At the end of the day, dating a player can be exhilarating, but so can riding a rollercoaster. So, if it’s thrills that you’re after, it will be much less painful to just take a trip to Thorpe Park.
Secondly, we all want to be that girl to ‘tame’ the boy no one ever thought could settle down. Women love a challenge, and we want to convert them into something we can bring home to our parents, however tricky that may be. Us girls want to believe that we possess that one characteristic which stands out from those before who have been carelessly tossed aside. The harsh reality is that they won’t commit, but we still attempt to woo them because there is something extremely sexy about a man who can’t be manipulated.
Girls are so drawn to bad boys because they are so confident (some believe the world genuinely revolves around them so don’t let his ego suffocate you). I hate to be the bearer of bad news for those who aren’t aware but they have much experience talking to women; you won’t be the first and probably not the last girl they make feel special. Players know exactly what to say and when to say it, so their air of confidence ensures we allow them to walk all over us.
We crave bad boys because the world portrays them to be so desirable, need I remind you of Chuck Bass? Excitement, our need to be worthy and their evident charm cause our self-control to evaporate before our very eyes!
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