Falling in love with your best friend could be either the best or worse thing. It could be the start of something great, or it could spoil what was a solid friendship. Unfortunately, until someone makes the leap and says something, you live in suspense.
Once you have it in your head that you like someone, especially someone you feel you shouldn’t, you cannot stop thinking about them. This is even worse with a friend, as it’s someone you see often which makes it impossible to avoid them.
So should you speak out? Confess and risk a having an awkward rejection followed by the falling apart of what was a good friendship? Or do you stay silent? Hope that you can just swallow your feelings forever?
Suffering from unrequited love can actually cause physical symptoms, we’re sure. It makes you irritable, it makes you cry at random times in the day sometimes, and it makes you SOO socially awkward. Having to hold in this secret with someone you see on the reg is literal torture. You find yourself debating whether you will simply have to die alone. Not being able to say anything usually only makes your feelings seem stronger. So potentially is it better to have loved and lost than to have never loved at all?
The initial worry is obviously the thought of rejection.
But hopefully you’ve known this friend for long enough to be able to read them a little. The second issue would be whether you’re getting into something that seems right in theory but wouldn’t be in practise. It’s the dream to “marry your best friend” but have they been a friend this long for a reason. Like are you Chandler and Monica? Chances are, no.
Will trying to make something more out of it actually spoil what you already had? Maybe it’s better to enjoy what you have, a great friend who you love, but are not necessarily IN love with.
Reading the signs can be difficult. And it’s even harder when you don’t have a best friend to pour over every detail with. However, this person is someone you have built up trust with. You know all their flaws, have so many shared memories, and you can be totally, brutally honest with them. What could possibly go wrong? I mean, apart from potential mahoosive heartbreak.
The harsh truth is that life is short. If it’s not meant to be, it won’t be. But you may as well give it a bloomin’ good go. You may lose your best friend, but as soon as you realise you have more romantic feelings then it’s sort of a one-way street from there. If you love them, let them know.