When my best friend first met her now-girlfriend she realised they were completely compatible; this girl was the pearl to her oyster, the Mac to her Cheese. There was just one problem: she couldnât tell if this girl was into her. Was the girl straight and looking for friendship? Was she interested in something more? For weeks we pored over these questions together, trying to decipher the difference between âbanterâ and âflanterâ.
Finally, my best friend made her move and, lo and behold, they are now the happiest couple since Ellen DeGeneres and Portia de Rossi. So take a leaf out of her book and follow these four steps to see if the girl you fancy likes you back:
1. Get her number.
Unsurprisingly, getting the 11 digits that could open the door to the greatest relationship of your life is no simple task. We suggest that you attempt to be casual â after having talked to this girl for 2 weeks, casually drop in âOh my god, I just realised I donât have your number.â Simple and effective.
2. Turn the banter into flanter.
Thereâs no way to know if youâll ever be more than friends if you donât get some flirtation in there. Instead of texting âCanât wait to see you later :)â you should turn that smiley into an ever-so-sexual â;)â If she likes you then sheâll flirt back and if not then you can blame autocorrect. Itâs a win-win.
3. Go on a date.
Group meet-ups are an option to start out with, but are also popular with Just Friends. We suggest a classic cinema date. Talk to her about a film that you know she wants to see and then ask her out. Once at the cinema, a Large Popcorn Bucket to share is essential. This means there will be opportunities for accidental hand-grazing. If she moves her hand away then sheâs probably not interested. If she doesnât move then you may have a chance. If youâre feeling confident, you could even try putting your arm around her in the classic yawn-oh-wait-my-arm-is-around-you fashion.
4. Come right out and ask.
My best friend was lucky that she found out her now-girlfriend liked her from a rumour, but usually we arenât this fortunate. The easiest way to find out if this girl is into you is to just say those three simple words: âI like youâ. Then see what happens.
Finding out if a girl likes you back is a nerve-wracking experience. The biggest fear is that she will pull a Regina George on you and morph into a homophobic bitch. The reality is usually different: if she doesnât like you back, then things could be awkward for a few days, but if she is a true friend then she will get over it. Itâs important not to be a Debbie Downer, however, because she may well like you back. The stakes may be high, but thereâs a potentially fabulous relationship at the end of the tunnel. So go for it.
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