I HATE Him…
You pray he’s not at the club when you’re on a girly night out; tense up as he walks past you on campus and shudder when his name is spoken. Sounds like a severe case of the ex-boyfriend blues right? Oh if only…
I wonder if it’s happened to you? It’s that slow creeping realization of your intense feelings of dislike towards your best friends new man. Reasons? Well where to start… he could be rude, overwhelmingly arrogant, crude, patronizing… Table manners have even put me off a friend’s new beau. (It just wasn’t acceptable to see regurgitated grilled chicken breast at a black tie 21st!).
I hear you… surely those aren’t justified reasons? I must be jealous! He’s stolen her attention now and she has no time for me sob sob sob. Perhaps not. I’m a big girl and can completely deal with the fact that maybe she’s got less time on her hands to party every night of the week and get violent with timepiece burgers.
But here’s the truth. Resent to this new half comes when we can see significant change in our gal pal for the worse. How her morals, values and actions have changed simply because he now ‘doesn’t approve’? Why she too now looks down on things that were hilarious in the past.
It’s painful but there’s nothing to be done. Stand back and stay patient. It’s completely her choice and you get to be the one who says ‘I told you so’ when the storm has passed and if not? Well you’re not the one who has to snuggle between the covers with rancid poultry breath each night….