Let’s face it ladies, most of us aren’t sporting a chastity ring these days. Sex can be a massive part of being with a boy you like, and getting over that first, possibly awkward time is key to setting your new sex life off to a good start. But when is the right time to make the step? No one wants to appear too easy but is the old “treat ‘em mean” saying really any better? We head over to the masculine dark side for some advice and ask our Exeter campus lads their opinion.
Our first lad is known to be quite the one with the ladies, and staring into his insanely attractive eyes, I can understand why. He’s a regular ‘spooner’ and it’s safe to say his bedpost holds quite the array of notches. Just as we would expect his rather blunt opinion parallels this commenting: “it’s never too soon. She wants it, I always want it, so we might as well do it.” What a charmer. He goes on to say“Sex is just an act. People get too caught up in it. It doesn’t matter how long you’ve known someone, you can still have good sex.” Although rather shocking opinions, our campus Casanova may not be far off the mark, if you both like each other and are comfortable, then who’s to stop you getting down to business?
Our next Exeter lad stands at 6’4: a big blonde rower with a Zeus-like figure– it’s safe to say he could turn a few heads at will. Yet his opinion is rather unexpected and in that way quite refreshing. Unlike the other males we interviewed who seemed more interested in racking up their numbers with any willing female in Arena, our Zeus felt it was only proper to have sex“when it feels right and there’s a definite future between two people. You shouldn’t do it unless you are 100% comfortable.” Do you want to marry him? If not, there is more:“Only do it if you like them to the extent that it means something to you. Sex is supposed to be really special; it’s the coming together of two people, so embrace that. I’d only feel comfortable with them when I knew they’d want the same thing.”
Finally, we cross over to our last Exeter campus lad. With his Norwegian accent and sweet charm, it’s clear he’s no stranger to the question at hand. Here are his smooth words of wisdom:“I tend not to make that many moves. I let the girls decide when she’s ready and it soon becomes obvious…That way I am still being a gentleman as well as making her want it more if I make a few little advances!” As the saying goes “don’t hate the player, hate the game!”
Overall, I guess all our Exeter men have different approaches to their women and all wait, or fail to, for different times. The key consensus here seems to be whenever feels comfortable. As long as you and your partner are comfortable and safe (don’t be silly, wrap that willy!), then go for it! Although we love to pry into lads opinions, only follow yours, go with the flow. Be it a long wait to mate or on the first date, it’s you and your partners choice!
Photo Credits: Scene from ‘Crazy, Stupid Love’ starring Emma Stone and Ryan Gosling, love-pictures.tumblr.com