Why is it that when one part of your life starts going well, another part falls apart? I mean, can we really have our cake, eat it, and not get fat? Or are we just being greedy? Nowadays, we all want the perfect work life, the perfect social life, the perfect family life AND the perfect love life, but why? After all, Cinderella only needed a prince for her happily ever after. We all have our weaknesses, the little flaws we try to cover, yet it’s the ones who strive for perfection that have the most to conceal. The thing is, even Touche éclat wears off eventually. Call me a cynic but it’s always “the perfect couple” where one is shagging the secretary, the girl with the straight A’s that ends up in AA, or the socialite butterfly that’s the most insecure of the lot. If climbing the ladder is met by snakes, at some point along the way maybe we should just take the bite and accept that maybe our weaknesses are what make us perfect.
Now, we all know that’s easier said than done, but what happens when you have to deal with someone else’s flaws too? When that Facebook relationship switches, you haven’t just signed-up to regular sex, phone bills and someone to cook you stir-fry, you’re now committed to loving everything you hate about them: Or at least pretending to.
It has long been known that Men from Mars cannot be understood by Women from Venus: a fact reinforced by boys’ “laddish” banter; dirty habits and ability to sleep straight after sex. In the same way, men struggle to understand the fairer sex: how single girls ever do up necklaces; how we create towel turbans; why we need so many cushions on our bed…the incomprehensible list is endless. In reality, however, these are all trivial irritations compared to us stealing their chips. The thing is, it’s not so much a lack of understanding that causes the real issues in relationships…it’s when you understand the issue but just can’t accept it. These issues tend to be a little more personal, take work and when it comes down to it, will be the things to make or break the relationship. Confrontation over these things is not bad, (after all, we’ve all experienced make-up sex) if you’re always arguing about the same thing, however, that’s when it’s going to end in tears. This said, personally, it is the couples that never argue that I am the most suspicious off. When that “honey-moon” period ends, (you wax less and he farts more,) it is invariable that you’ll argue more too. For anyone with siblings, however, you don’t need to be told that it is the people you love the most that you can shout at more, passion just gets confused sometimes.
When it comes down to it, the perfect relationship is not the one without flaws; it is the one with the flaws you accept.
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