It’s that time of year again where you either love or dread the rapidly approaching day of romance– Valentine’s Day. Like most people, I immediately picture the guy struggling to piece together the most romantic evening of his and his adored one’s life. He is planning the venue, establishing the perfect atmosphere, writing a romantic card and gathering together flowers, chocolates, and maybe some other gifts. Guys are always thinking about what the girl wants, but what does he want? I have always felt the onus of the “perfect” Valentine’s Day fell on the gentleman. What I, and maybe some others, need to remember is that this is just one day where you really take the time to cherish the relationship you have with your better half (I believe the effort that goes into this day should not just be reserved for those 24hrs alone, but that’s a different story). It has never really crossed my mind to think of what the guy wants out of this (other than your absolute happiness). Assuming the girl wants this day to be as “special” as the guy does or just wants to give him a little something for making her the happiest girl on the planet, what does she give?
Do you give something materialistic? I feel that it isn’t necessary. You could get him some sort of fancy accessory, clothes, sports tickets, etc. but you girls know the answer: anything of sentimental value is best. This does not make it any easier, and adds superfluous pressure to the process, kinda like when you were trying to pick which college to attend and your sibling/parent/friend walks in and goes, “yeah, don’t want to mess this one up or you just f-ed up your entire life”… thanks again for that. However allow me to ease your stress, the guy isn’t looking for gifts. This does not mean if you get him something he will be unappreciative. Not only will he really appreciate the thoughtful gift, but he’ll be taken back by the fact that you even got him something. WARNING: If you have a significant other that is dropping hints about getting him a gift than feel free to DROP him. This holiday is about spending time together where you can have the day, evening or even a few hours to just escape from everything in your life and be with the one that has been on your mind and in your heart all day. Cheesy I know, but the guy should be thinking ‘being with you is the only gift I need’. Obviously not every guy will say or think this, but that doesn’t mean it isn’t true. My boy JJ (Jack Johnson) gets it. In his song Angel he sings, “She gives me presents, with her presence alone”. Ladies, we are lucky to have ya around.
Alright now let’s assume you are like me and in spite of all the things I’ve said above you really want to get that special someone a gift that illustrates how much you care about them. What I do is I’ll sit down and write out everything I can think about relating to the angel that is a part of my life whether it is big, small, sentimental or funny. Getting a gift that corresponds to any of these factors shows how much thought you put into it. Maybe get him some little fun gizmo or everyday thing that will always remind him of you. Now if you girls want an easier solution then I have one for you (you probably already knew this though)… what does a guy think about all the time? Mhmm no need for me to even say it so now why don’t we direct our efforts more towards a ‘romantic’ gift.
Every guy is thinking and wanting it and is hopefully too polite and respectful to ask for whatever it is he would like you to do with/to him in the bedroom. No need to do anything drastic. If you’re not comfortable with doing something then don’t. Solution? Experiment with what is already done under the sheets with your Boo. Spice things up if you will. Heck another option if you want to surprise him is if you know he may not have planned for a romantic evening or didn’t set up a room and bed covered in rose petals, do it yourself! Beat him to it and set the mood (nothing sexier in my opinion). A guy likes to feel wanted especially when it comes to these things. It is like when the ice cream man gives a little kid his favorite ice cream for free on the hottest day during the summer. The little kid is blown away because he never expected that to happen and now he gets to indulge in one of his favorite things.
So what have we concluded? If you don’t get the guy a gift it is okay. If you do get him a gift then don’t worry about the size, price, or quantity. It is coming from you and that is all that matters. Whether you’re having a night of pure ecstasy, bliss or romance, just remember you have the greatest gift of all, each other.