After a breakup (especially an unexpected one), you may feel a bit lost. You and your significant other shared everything – friends, clothes, classes and many memories. When you end a relationship, it’ll seem like all of that is lost; like you have lost a part of who you are and your life. In a sense, that is true because your SO’s life probably merged with yours to become one that you shared together. However, after one chapter has closed, it’s time for another one to begin – one where you rediscover yourself and your interests and slay everything that you do.
1. Talk it out
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They say that the first step to solving a problem is to first address it. If you are feeling any type of emotion at all – anger, sadness, regret, jealousy, etc., it is best to let it all out and talk about it with your friends, parents, or a therapist. The more you keep everything bottled up inside, the more it will eat you alive, and you will never recover. Even if you are not feeling a negative emotion and you are feeling happy, free and independent, it is okay to express that. Being in touch with your emotions and recognizing how you feel is crucial in order to get ready to live your best life.
2. Do what you love
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Maybe you put your own interests aside to only do what your SO liked to do or maybe you simply just didn’t have time to enjoy your hobbies anymore. Whatever the reason, now is the time to focus on yourself and what you love to do. Be selfish and take however much time you need to go to the gym, engage in a little retail therapy, learn new recipes, or spend time with family. The most important person you need to give a lot of love to is yourself.
3. Make at least one big change
When you lose something in your life, it’s only fair that you get to have something new. You should step out of your comfort zone and make at least one big change, whether that’s getting a new hairstyle, doing a social media detox or learning a difficult language. Doing this is a progressive step towards bettering yourself and gaining a strong sense of confidence.
4. Have a girls’ night out
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Grab your closest friends and head out for a night on the town! Having a great support system of women around you who will lift up your spirits and gas you up is one of the best feelings in the world. Hit the club, bar or a frat party with these girls in your best outfits, looking as hot as possible. It’s okay (and sometimes even better) to not flirt with anyone either – it’s just you and your girls out having a good time! Don’t forget to take cute pictures for Instagram to post the next morning!
After you try one or more of these steps to bounce back, you will be feeling better than ever and ready to take on whatever life throws at you next. Remember that just because a relationship that you loved and cherished has ended, doesn’t mean that you won’t find something better in the future. Use this time to focus and really love yourself so you can be the best you that you can be!