Today, I decided to write something a little bit different. As the holiday’s approach and more people decide to get into relationships, these might be a couple of things to consider before you do so.
First, making sure both parties are comfortable with the speed of the relationship is extremely important. If one party is uncomfortable with the speed whether it be too fast or too slow, there needs to be a compromise. In all honesty, compromise is extremely important for the entirety of the relationship. If there is a disagreement or argument that comes up, it needs to be resolved obviously. But, if one party isn’t happy with the outcome, there needs to be a compromise in order to resolve the issue. One party can’t just have it their way the entire time in the relationship. That is unfair to all parties and, honestly, there will be further conflict if one person gets their way the whole time.
Second, there needs to be an understanding that there is going to be conflict. There will be times when you can’t seem to get to an agreement. You need to be prepared for that and ready for the rough days that are bound to be there someday. There is usually a period where nothing is wrong and everyone involved is extremely happy. Unfortunately, when you spend a lot of time with a person in your relationship, you will butt heads eventually. Mentally preparing for this is important. If there isn’t any preparation, it might make someone jump out of the relationship as soon as conflict is presented. If that’s the case, then that just proves the person involved wasn’t emotionally mature enough to handle conflict. I understand that there can’t be a conflict every single day but you also can’t disregard a person’s feelings about something if they feel it is valuable. At the very least, you can talk it out with them and make sure they’re okay and comfortable still in the relationship.
Lastly, being physically attracted to someone isn’t the sole purpose there should be a relationship. Yes, it is definitely majorly beneficial to the health of the relationship if there is physical attraction. But there will be a time where everyone is old and wrinkly and unattractive, that’s just life. You need to be okay with the person you’re dating on the inside. Now when I say this, it’s okay to be mad at someone or not like them for a little while. But if it is a reoccurring thing, and you simply can’t handle the way they act, then something needs to change. This is easier to recognize after a certain period of time in the relationship. When you like someone at first, you want them to like you and fall for you. Unfortunately, if you recognize that there is something you don’t like about a person, there is no reason to have to deal with it. Nobody is going to be perfect, of course, but if they aren’t to your standards, it’s okay to end things. When it comes down to it you, don’t owe them a damn thing.
In general, relationships can be confusing and hard to navigate, but when it’s with a person that truly cares for you that shouldn’t matter. Not every day will be a battle, but somedays will.