Women are powerful, yet often we don’t internalize our strength. While I am certainly generalizing and dismantling stereotypes of women specifically, this is a reminder to myself, and to others who identify as female and anyone else who empathizes.
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Start Saying No
Often as women, we feel the need to be superwoman. We try to do it all: excel in school, in our job, in extracurriculars on campus, and in social settings — all while being there for our friends and doing things for those around us. Don’t spread yourself too thin. As women, we have a need to please everyone leaving ourselves behind. Start saying no to things you don’t want to do and start saying yes to what YOU want. Saying “no” can help you maintain personal boundaries, reduce the chances of being taken advantage of by others, and avoid burnout.
Stop Apologizing For Everything
Don’t get me wrong; there is nothing I appreciate more than someone who can own up to their wrong-doings, but I often catch myself and others compulsively apologizing for situations that don’t need one. There is an underlying idea that apologies coincide with politeness, express regret or are a way of showing gratitude. Women not only apologize for their failures, they often apologize for their success. When Naomi Osaka defeated Serena Williams in the 2018 U.S Open, she apologized for her success because she didn’t feel it was the outcome the crowd wanted. This constant awareness and empathy of others’ feelings can cause women to not appreciate or believe in their accomplishments. Next time, substitute your apology for gratitude.
Do Things For Myself
If you don’t take your own needs seriously than no one else will. Women have nurturing spirits that frequently get treated on others. We have been socialized to take care of others’ wants, needs, and expectations while neglecting or not having enough time for our own. It is essential to sit back and reflect on what YOU need. Be kind to yourself and take time for yourself.Â
Make The First Move
Whether it be someone you’re interested in, in the workplace, or anywhere else… speak up! The idea that women need to wait their turn or to be invited perpetuates the stigma that women follow behind. A woman in a leadership role is powerful, yet often when we become assertive, we are pigeonholed into categories such as “bitch.” Black women especially are policed for their passion that is interpreted as anger. To rewrite this stigma we need to dismantle it. Do not let it stop you from eagerly going after your goals. Be your authentic self, demand respect, and speak your mind.Â