If you have ever been on social media, it is no secret to you that it can sometimes be overwhelming. Everyone is posting pictures of themselves and their lives and it can be very hard, if not impossible, to not compare yourself to them. Whether it be celebrities, high school friends, college friends, family or even your roommates, everyone is filtered and perfect in their posts. It can be hard to figure out what is real and what is thought to be the “ideal”.
I can speak from experience that I have fallen into this trap of social media. As everyone does, I have my own set of insecurities about my body and my general appearance. I constantly find myself trapped in this negative cycle of seeing a picture and wanting to compare myself. Then, when I don’t fit the mold or look the same, I get so upset and angry at myself for not being as “pretty,” as “skinny, or just as “good” as everyone else.
However, there are certain people on social media who stand out above the rest and who don’t pay mind to the arbitrary beauty standards. They are beautiful, as everyone is, and they exude confidence and positivity. They have an honest view of the world and teach those who see them and their posts to be the same way. They are a welcome change to the monotonous feeds on social media, and at least for myself, make me realize that I don’t have to fit in a certain mold to be good enough. One of these people is Remi Bader.
Remi Bader is a Curve Model who lives in NYC. She has a large following on TikTok and is the self-proclaimed, and widely supported, “queen of realistic hauls”. She is also an alumna of the University of Delaware. Since quarantine, I have spent a lot of time on TikTok with large portions of that time being devoted to binge-watching Remi’s videos. While each video is funny and entertaining, I think that her reach goes a lot farther than just being a way to pass the time on the app.
I have found that Remi’s videos have made me realize how crazy it is to live up to the expectation of unachievable beauty standards. She consistently is open about the sizes of her clothing, the way clothes fit her, whether it be well or not at all, and about tips to remain confident and healthy. Despite speaking honestly about topics that I am honestly scared to even talk about to myself, she is one the most positive, successful, realistic and confident people on TikTok. It is no secret that she has a following because she has changed many people’s lives and their outlook on themselves and the world. She also gives amazing advice about style and getting quality clothing, an added plus to her already influential platform. I am so glad to have found her videos as they really have helped me to think differently about myself and I can’t wait to see how else she continues to change the world of beauty standards. With that, I’m going to go binge watch more of her videos and you should too!