This is for the all the boys that have been or are currently a girl’s ‘first’.
I’m not talking about sex. Or the kiss. But the very ‘first’ person she had real feelings for;
The first that made her feel warm and funny in all the right ways. The first that held her and had her think you wanted her just as much as she wanted you.
She’s given you something that not many people can easily take. The trouble with you boys is that despite you’ve held many things that look like hers, you think it’s okay to treat her the same.
She isn’t Sample B; something to taste, something you only want a piece of, something that is only slightly different from the girl before her.
Your relationship isn’t a laboratory.
Her heart is not a test.
The ‘first’ is the most important one of them all because although you may not show her the worst pain, you will introduce her to how much putting yourself out there can hurt: to wake up with an ache in your bones, an emptiness in your chest, a soreness in your stomach that spreads to your legs and keeps you in bed from day to night.
Be considerate as she holds the brightest eyes for adventure and the biggest heart for compassion,
Be mindful as she will see her worth through your words,
Be careful as she thinks her value is dependent on how you treat her,
Be honest – so when she hurts, she’ll know you at least tried.
Be the best first she’s ever had.
She has never been held, never been told she was beautiful, and never been seen this way by someone like you.
She is scared. This is the first time she’s given herself away. Her heart, her stories, her secrets, and sometimes, her body.
Cherish that. Tell her there is no one in the world quite like her.
That will bring out the cute twinkle in her eyes and most importantly, it will plant this small idea in her head that she is worth something – that she is worth being nurtured and loved. Because at a certain age, some girls don’t know how to measure their worth.
So they base their worth off of how boys like you treat her, that she is only valuable when she is liked by others.
Breaking her means she will never want to try again.
Don’t worry. Woman like her were made to bleed and heal, break and learn, forgive and love.
She will realize that her worth is not determined by men, but by how she treats herself.
For now, remember she is new to all this. Please place her heart in the right direction. Too many boys often forget how much their words and actions matter to a girl.
Save her the stress, save her the tears. Give her everything you’d give yourself and even more.
From all the girls mistreated by their first