As a girl who has never been in a long-term relationship, I’ve noticed a widespread idea that as a single woman I’m sexually deprived, desperate for physical contact or just prude. Contrary to these assumptions, I love sex and have found ways to ensure that I don’t need another person to please me.
Mostly, some people don’t seem to understand that you don’t need a relationship to be satisfied and the idea that I’m having better orgasms while single than people in a relationship are is a foreign concept. But I possess the belief that sexual satisfaction is hugely possible when you’re single, here’s how.
1) You know yourself better than anybody else does.
Being single and sexually frustrated is the perfect time to explore what really gets you going. You can explore things that you may not be able to if you’re in a relationship because you’re focusing on somebody else’s pleasure as opposed to purely your own. Erotic Novels? Yes. Porn at 4am? Double yes. Sexy fanfiction? You know it. Trying new things and discovering what really does it for you is not only fun but will benefit you if you do find the right person and get into a relationship.
2) Masturbation is the key.
There seems to be this stigma about female masturbation that needs to come to an end, now. Masturbation is one of the key ways to remain sexually satisfied when single and there’s no reason why women shouldn’t do it. As I said already, you know yourself better than anyone else and pleasing yourself can be just as good.
Masturbation can be a highly spiritual form of ‘you’ time and you may discover that you can connect with and satisfy yourself in a way that’s unlike getting busy with anyone else. If you’re feeling adventurous or even just self-indulgent you could treat yourself to a sex toy like a vibrator or a dildo to put a new spin on your ‘you’ time.
3) Another way to go about things.
If you have been in relationships in the past and miss the excitement and passion involved in having sex with another person I suggest you try experimenting with casual sex and sexting. Having casual, no-strings-attached sex with another person can be completely thrilling and receiving attention and pleasure driven by pure physical attraction can be a huge confidence booster.
Sexting can also be an exciting way to satisfy yourself when you’re single AF, but sext with caution. Ensure that the person you’re talking to is trustworthy and if you’re sending pictures make sure there’s so distinguishable birthmarks, tattoos or freckles in the picture to keep your anonymity.
It’s definitely possible to stay sexually satisfied while being single. Experimentation with masturbation, casual sex and sexting can all lead you along the path to your own sexual enlightenment. Just because you’re single doesn’t mean you can’t enjoy yourself and experiment. Just make sure to stay sex positive, open minded and most importantly stay safe.