A Guide to Phone Sex

The COVID-19 pandemic has affected people’s sex lives in many ways. For those in long-distance relationships, the travel restrictions have meant that couples have had to get creative to keep their relationships spicy. 

Even if you aren’t in a long-distance relationship, you may have been quarantined separately from your partner, making your setup seem like a sudden and unintentional LDR, even if they don’t live in another country. 

It’s easy to get sexually frustrated when you’re frequently horny and can’t be intimate with your partner. However, new technologies are a great way of keeping the spark alive in your relationship, even when you’re apart. Thankfully, our phones keep us in touch with the people we love or lust for. 

Phone and video sex can take sexting to the next level, intimidating as it may be. Texting someone something cheeky is a different ball game then actually saying them aloud, even for the most sexually liberated among us.  

However, mastering erotic talk is a super-useful, sexy skill, and the more often you practice the easier and more natural (and pleasurable) it becomes! 

First and foremost, you have to relax. The person on the other end likes you and wants to share this experience with you; you shouldn’t be embarrassed about wanting phone sex. 

If you’re on the phone with somebody you’re in a relationship with, it’s likely they know what you like and what turns you on, so release your inhibitions and let their words work their magic! 

If you’re finding it difficult to get into the mood, you can do things to make you feel sexier. Put on a pair of underwear that makes you feel sexy, lower the lights in your room, light some candles and play some sensual music. 

Figuring out what to say can be the trickiest part of phone sex. You don’t have to get too explicit to start off; an easy way to kick things off is to tell them what you’re doing or ask them what they would do if you were together. While it’s great to use your imagination, starting off simply is a tried and tested way of getting into the mood.

If you have a vibrator or other sex toy, whip it out and tell them about it. If anything, it will keep the conversation natural as it progresses, and keep you turned on while saving your energy. Coming together while apart is great, and you can do it your way! 

Just because it’s called ‘phone sex’ doesn’t mean you shouldn’t use the video technology at your disposal! Using FaceTime or Skype is a great idea to get a better mental image of what you are talking about, and if set up properly it will keep your hands free while getting down to it. 

After you finish, don’t be afraid to have a laugh about it! Tell your partner about that one move that really worked, and hopefully they will reciprocate with compliments tot boost your self-esteem for the next time. 

Phone sex can be very daunting, but once you bite the bullet and give it a go, it gets much easier. There are endless ways to keep your love life alive in an LDR and can be just as fun as the real thing!