Having someone’s number and not just a mutual following on Instagram, is a step in the right direction in this day and age. With our hookup culture today, things tend to go a little backwards than more traditional relationship timelines and cause confusion, typically for both parties. We are here to discuss the stage that everyone forgets which is known as the “seeing each other” stage.
Our generation gets a bad wrap for our relationship habits. Dating has never been easy and our modern habits have not made any progress to further ourselves from this stigma. When the right person comes along and you posses the red heart on Snapchat, it’s safe to say, things are getting serious.
After you have been “talking” to someone for more than a couple of weeks and get to know everything from their favorite rapper to their last birthday cake flavor, you continue to like eachother more than either anticipated or decide that this relationship is not going to work out at all. For the sake of this article, we will use the increased interest example. This is typically where we start to wonder where this is going, should we keep talking? Should we DTR? Should I buy them a Christmas present? Your friends, your mom, or your barista, will tell you to let things happen naturally and not worry too much. But commitment is scary, and when you aren’t ready to put a FB ring on it, but you aren’t quite ready to stop talking either, we begin to to only see two ways out and neither or ideal. Either stop talking and act like the whole thing ever happened, or dive in with both feet and hope for the best.
Cue, the “Seeing each other” you aren’t dating, you may have mentioned them to your aunt on Easter a couple of times, you’re hanging out 3 times a week on average but you would NOT call them your bf/gf if someone asked. This stage is crucial. We decide if we are willing to see where this goes and start to establish each other as a couple, hang out with their friends, go out in public for pizza but still claim your independence as a single. It’s kind of the best stage ever, according to Carrie Bradshaw and if she isn’t a strong enough testimony, I don’t know who is.
If you are approaching the seeing someone stage, don’t panic. It’s a good thing you’re taking it slow and getting to know someone before slapping a label on something you both aren’t completely sure about. So congrats on the potential Netflix companion, but more importantly, on your continued freedom to watch a Netflix series undictated by someone else’s schedule.