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What I Learned During My Time at CU – Be Kind To Yourself

This article is written by a student writer from the Her Campus at CU Boulder chapter.

As a senior graduating in May, I had one of those late-night shower thoughts about how there is so much I wish I had known when I started this journey four years ago. So, I have decided to make this series about things I want to share with anyone who still has time left in college, anyone about to embark on their college journey as you’re choosing where you will go after high school, or truly anyone graduating and can still benefit from these lessons I’ve learned.

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Be Kind to Yourself

Today I want to focus on being kind to yourself in regards to what you define as your success. As a scholar on a full-ride scholarship, I thought I had to do everything and be the best at everything right from the get-go. While this behavior benefited me and my resume definitely shows the results of that hard work, I now know that growth into each phase of your life is critical to maintaining your life happiness.

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Whether this takes form as taking every hard course as close together as possible so you feel accomplished and advanced in your major, or you join everything possible and try to take on leadership positions, it is ok to say no and to pursue your goals on your own time. I promise you if you follow your passions you will find what you want to excel in, and following it on your timeline will make you so much happier.

I started so many extracurriculars, from independent neuroscience research to being the Director of Events for HCCU, and while I have loved every step of this journey, there were so many times I felt overwhelmed and felt like I had to meet success along an invisible and unattainable timeline. But when I stepped back, I realized no one had set a timeline I had to meet, and I could do everything in the time that was right for me. It led me to all of the success I have achieved in college.

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In this same thread, stop defining your success based on what people around you are saying. Your success can be whatever you define it to be and giving yourself this kindness and personal grace will lead to you being so much happier! 

This time in life is about finding yourself and discovering who you want to be and what fulfills you, so take the time to show yourself kindness; take a break, say no, and take a deep breath while you pursue your passions.

Katelynn Hughes

CU Boulder '21

Katelynn is currently a senior at CU Boulder, double majoring in Neuroscience and Psychology with a minor in Business. She is an undergraduate student researcher studying alcohol use in adolescence and has worked with public policy around juvenile justice. She currently serves as the Events Director for the CU chapter on the Senior Exec board. In her free time she loves movie nights with her girl squad and cuddling with her poodle.
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