Sex: an activity that I believe to be better enjoyed with the presence of music. Sure, hearing the naked sounds of your own bodies moving and moaning is hot, but I think that the experience is transformed when something in the background is playing.
Listening to music during sex not only hides the fact that you’re having sex to your roommates but also sets a mood. Are you going for a fun-sex vibe or more of a consensual-aggressive one? Maybe you’re just laying around listening to something soft and slow with someone, then things naturally unfold one way or another (that’s my favorite).
All this being said, if you’re going to be having sex with music regularly, you’re going to need a playlist. Most people have multiple that are specific to the mood they are trying to create, while others just have one large one. Despite loving when music plays when I have sex, I don’t have a “sex” playlist. Rather, I have a playlist that I add to after I’ve had sex to those songs.
Let me just say, some of them work really well, some are subpar, and others don’t work for any mood. It was just what was playing at the time, and I usually don’t get up to change the song mid-session (though I will admit to having done that before).
Here are a few songs that are on my sex playlist, with ratings of how “sexy” they are to have sex to.
“Toes” by Glass Animals
Rating: 10/10
I know that the name of the song is incredibly off-putting, but this is probably the best song I’ve had sex to. It’s slow and sensual, and exactly the kind of song you would see being played during a TV show sex scene. I must say, however, that the lyrics don’t make any sense whatsoever, so it’s the sound and vibe you have to focus on. Honestly, anything from the ZABA album by Glass Animals is the same way.
“Running Miles” by Hippie Sabotage
Rating: 7/10
This song is definitely a good “after party” sex song and good for the summer, but it doesn’t serve a lot of moods after that. Out of all the Hippie Sabotage songs on my sex playlist (there are five of them…), I think this is the best one.
“One Way Or Another” by Blondie
Rating: 1/10
This is the kind of song in a movie that would montage all the sex scenes, but I don’t think that anyone should have sex to this song. Not only is it super upbeat, the lyrics of someone chasing and finding you are very unappealing while you’re currently naked and in the act. I didn’t really have a choice to skip the song because it was through a movie, but I really wish I would’ve.
“Edamame” by bbno$ and Rich Brian
Rating: 5/10
This one is kind of embarrassing. It’s one of those songs that came on and I didn’t want to listen to, but also didn’t want to put in the effort of getting up to skip. So while it doesn’t ruin the mood or the sex, I definitely was thinking “why the hell did I let that song play all the way through?”
Any song by the Weeknd
Rating: 8-10/10
I feel like the Weeknd is the epitome of good sex songs. Almost all of them are about him treating a woman right or having sex with them, so the mood is already set. Listening to a song about sex while having sex usually never fails. Many songs by the Weeknd are on this playlist.
“To Build a Home” by The Cinematic Orchestra
Rating: 4/10
This is one of my favorite songs, but it’s too sad and too beautiful for sex. This is one of the songs on my crying playlist, so I’m not sure how it sneaked into the queue. Either way, it ruined my emotional mood and I would not recommend something that “chill” when you’re doing it.
“Heat Waves,” “Heart Waves – Stripped Back,” “Heat Waves – Diplo Remix,” and “Heat Waves – Shakur Ahmad Remix,” by Glass Animals
Rating: Just don’t
You’re probably wondering: have you really had sex to four different versions of “Heat Waves?” The answer is unfortunately, yes. Sometimes shuffling an artist (such as the Weeknd or Chase Atlantic!) provides good sex songs, and other times it’s four versions of “Heat Waves.” While none of these versions are bad songs to any extent, I simply cannot listen to them the same way. I would avoid having sex to multiple versions of a song, it only heightens the unlistenability each time.
In conclusion…
You can have sex however you want! Whether with music or without, it doesn’t matter. Creating your own experience that you both enjoy is what is most important. If you decide to listen to music, however, maybe plan ahead a little and create a playlist for the songs you like or use someone else’s (I use my roommate’s, haha). The last thing you want is a song ruining a good time.