Are you ready to delve into my disastrous dating life? Well, get ready, because this week produced some juicy topics. As I went over in last week’s article, the thing about being single is your friends always want to set you up with people. Never once in my life has this worked out. It is the most awkward experience every time and you end up asking yourself why your friends even thought that was a good idea in the first place. Who is with me on this?
It was no surprise that about a month ago, one of my good friends conspired to set me up with a guy. Now, usually they set you up because they think the two of you will get along, have something in common, or you are in need of a date for an event of some sort. Well, this was different from all the other set ups I’ve had in the past in many ways. First, apparently the thing we have in common is that we are both virgins. After I learned that this was the reason we were being set up, I jumped to the conclusion that this was officially the worst set up idea ever. How in the world does that mean we will be compatible?Â
In any case, once she told me who he was, I realized that I had known him for a while. We have a ton of mutual friends but I never even considered the possibility of dating him. Not because he isn’t attractive, but I just didn’t see it happening. Sounds easy enough, right? Just go on a date, start texting, or just start talking. Well, not so fast. It has been one long and slow process getting to know this guy. I couldn’t even tell you five things about him at this point. I ran into him this past weekend at a party and we said hi and went our separate ways for the rest of the night. We ended up riding home together with friends and sat next to each other. We were sitting close, thighs and arms touching, the tension was palpable and then… nothing happened. Due to the fact that I was a tad intoxicated and was fed up on waiting for him to make the first move, I decided to text him that night. He replied and we exchanged a few texts, but nothing has happened since that day.
Now, who knows if he is even that into me. I have gotten reassurance from friends that he thinks I’m attractive, but is waiting for the right moment or is too shy to do anything about it. A guy being shy is a totally foreign concept to me. Maybe it is because I always fall for the jerks who have no problem sweet-talking, but every guy I was ever interested in was very straightforward about the fact that they thought I was attractive. Whether it was a text, a touch, or even saying it, it was never a big mystery for long. This guy is totally different. I don’t even know if I like him. I barely know him. For some reason, we keep getting pushed together in these situations that make us both uncomfortable. Maybe because there is some tension there, it will eventually happen, but I’m not holding my breath. I’ve vowed to let it play out without worrying about it too much.
I suspect that texting him wasn’t enough of a push to get him to make a move. The question becomes, do I try again? Do I text him again or maybe I just need to walk up to him and kiss him. If I ever find myself next to him in a car again, that may be the only option for getting this out of our systems. I would just hate to move along without exploring the option and always wondering, “What if?” Plus, I don’t have that much time left at CNU, so I should be having fun, right? Let me know what you think, my fellow Captains!Â
Yours Truly,Â
The Virgin Next Door