As a member of the LGBTQ+ community, I’ve heard my fair share of ignorant comments and gone through some uncomfortable experiences. Here is a list of 8 things we lesbians (specifically lipstick/femme) have to deal with. *These can also apply to many queer people of different identities.
1) People always assume you’re straight.
Honey, there ain’t anything straight about me.
2) The wide-eyes, shocked gasp, and “But you don’t look like a lesbian!” reactions when you tell people you’re gay.
Really? Tell me, what exactly does a lesbian look like???
3) “But if you’ve never had sex with a guy, then how do you know if you’re not into it?”
Oh really? Well, how do YOU know you’re not into vagina/penis if you’ve never had sexual experiences with one?
4) “You could have any guy you want!”
I don’t want one, but thanks… I guess.
5) People who pressure you to “prove” your gayness.
No, I will NOT kiss a girl in front of you just so you can get some sort of satisfaction from it, and I do NOT have to prove myself to you.
6) When extended family asks if you’ve “met any boys in college yet”.
*Internally sighs for 5000 years*
7) When you go to a party and talk to a guy and all is going well, but when he finds out you’re gay, he and all his buddies think you “led him on”.
I was just trying to make a new friend. Jeez.
8) When a guy thinks he can “turn you straight”.
Nope, I’m a proud, gay woman and nothing will change that.