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My First Valentine’s Day

My First Valentine’s Day

 
I’ve never been in a serious relationship for Valentine’s Day before, so this year is a 
 
first for me. I’ve done my share of Galentine’s Days and I have no idea how to do 
 
Valentine’s Day “properly”. While trying to avoid getting swept up in the hype, I 
 
learned a few things about this heart-filled holiday.
 
1. It doesn’t have to be showy. 
 
I always pictured Valentine’s Day as full of flowers and cards and hearts and 
 
grand, romantic gestures. But as it gets closer to the actual date, I’ve realized 
 
that romance doesn’t have to be flashy. I’m most excited to spend time with 
 
someone I care about and I don’t care as much about flowers as I thought I 
 
would. 
 
 
2. Guys are terrible at planning.
 
Sorry to the men who actually AREN’T terrible at planning, but in my 
 
experience, guys just don’t have the desire to plan down to the last detail like 
 
girls do. Exhibit A: I asked my boyfriend what he wanted to do on Valentine’s 
 
Day and he said, “When is that?” After some gentle persuading, I got him to 
 
suggest something sweet for us that doesn’t require much planning (a day 
 
trip and then a homemade dinner). If you’re with someone who isn’t big on 
 
planning, go simple. It’s just as romantic as special as a fancy dinner (and 
 
won’t break the bank). 
 
 
3. Romance isn’t dead – just different.
 
Over the decades, the idea of romance has changed drastically. Nowadays if 
 
you ask someone to “go steady” they’ll think you’re crazy, and if you told your 
 
grandparents you were “talking” to someone they would be incredibly 
 
confused. So it stands to reason that you can’t expect the moon from your 
 
significant other. Appreciate everything they do for you, because even if it 
 
doesn’t fit your mold of romance, it still means they care about you.
 
 
4. It’s only as big as you want it to be.
 
If you’re someone who doesn’t like Valentine’s Day, great! You don’t have to 
 
celebrate it. No one is forcing you to. Want a huge dinner with 12 dozen 
 
roses? That’s great too. There’s no “right way” to do Valentine’s Day. 
 
Whatever makes you and your significant other happy is the right way to do 
 
it.
 
 
5. It’s about celebrating your relationship.
 
Many people say Valentine’s Day is just a Hallmark holiday. Nothing could be 
 
more false. Granted, yes, big companies make a ton of money off of it. But the 
 
root of the holiday is to celebrate the people that you love and care about. 
 
Instead of getting swept up in the hype, focus on what makes your 
 
relationship great and what you like about the person you’re with, and the 
 
day will surely be one to remember.
 
My name is Carly McRae and I'm a junior at Clemson University. I'm studying Secondary Education with an emphasis in English and am in denial that I'm more than halfway done with school. I'm a member of TakeNote, our female a cappella group, Clemson University Singers, as well as the Beta Kappa chapter of Phi Sigma Pi National Honor Fraternity. I love being a Clemson tiger and am so excited to be writing for Her Campus!
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