What it's Like to be Ineligible

Joining a sorority isn’t for everyone, but for some it is a new and exciting journey. Coming into college you get exposed to Greek life through activity days, meet the Greeks, meet the sororities and individual get togethers they hold. For some it is an easy decision, but for others it takes some time to realize if Greek life is right for you, but what if you want to join but can’t?


I can say firsthand how heartbreaking it is to find girls who you instantly click with, ones you're ready to jump into Greek life with, but then be told you can’t. I toyed around with the idea of wanting to rush my second semester of freshman year, but I wasn’t completely sure about it. When you’re a freshman you want try everything, so it can be overwhelming. I wanted to focus on my school work and some medical issues I came into college with. I decided my sophomore year I would look more into it and make my decision from there. I found a group of girls that I instantly clicked with and at that moment, I knew I wanted to rush. I went to every get together they would hold and I knew that this is what I wanted to be a part of. My complete heartbreak would come when I realized missing so much due to medical issues and getting behind would destroy my hope. I was so ready to jump in feet first and finally feel like I belonged, but it would never come.

With more medical issues to follow, I was back at square one and once again, I couldn’t even think of joining.  Seeing the social media posts of everyone rushing made me so depressed because I wanted nothing more than to rush. People may think that you backed out but when in reality you weren’t eligible. Two semesters struggling with the hectic college life and dealing with all these medical problems that I couldn’t fix completely halted all my hopes of joining.

Now almost ending my sophomore year I wonder if it is even possible to join my junior year. I decided that I want to extend my undergraduate education an extra year. I have read so many articles saying that joining a sorority as an upperclassman is nearly impossible because of your age. But I want to give it one more try, if I don’t get a bid then so be it because maybe it wasn’t ever meant to be. If I do get a bid, I can tell you I’d be one incredibly happy lady.

For now, I have to wait  until next year wondering if I will be heartbroken again, or be excited to have the last few years at college be the best. So, if you end up not being eligible to join for whatever reason, don’t give up hope. You never know what could happen and being optimistic will make you relax a little.