For some people, dating a co-worker actually works out. For me, it didn’t. I had reservations about it and wouldn’t of went through with it if I didn’t believe it would work out. Unfortunately for me, it didn’t work out and I regret the entire experience.
For those who decide to date a co-worker, it is nice to get to see the person you are dating at work and getting to work with them. This works out especially well if you don’t have much time to see each other outside of work. This is why I enjoyed the idea of it because I was so busy outside of work.
It started to become a problem though. The co-worker I dated had been working at our place of employment for four months already when I came on and I found as time went by, he started acting like he was the boss of me. He would tell me to do something a certain way as an order, not a suggestion, and it would make me angry because he wasn’t my supervisor. He had no right to be giving me orders or telling me how to do things.
For co-workers dating, you both have to really enjoy each other’s company or it will get old spending hours at work together and then spending more time together outside of work. It got to the point where we were around each other so much at work, we didn’t want to spend time together outside of work at all. When he would want to see me, I didn’t want to see him. When I wanted to see him, he didn’t want to see me.
This led to major annoyance on my end and I started to become annoyed to see him at work too. I became even more annoyed when his reasons for blowing me off became more and more stupid.
“Oh, I’m tired. I’m going to go home and sleep.” “Oh, I need to go home and do laundry.” “Oh, my legs are killing me.” “I’m not sure if I’ll have the free time.” “Oh, I have stuff to do.”
We broke up right before the 4th of July because I wanted to see fireworks after work and he blew me off with no good reason and decided to dump me over voicemail that night. After being dumped over voicemail, I was really mad and became more mad when I realized that I would have to continue to see this person at work still.
That is the major problem with dating a co-worker that I didn’t foresee. Once you break up, they are still your co-worker. If that person isn’t planning on leaving their job and you aren’t either, you are both still in each other’s lives and it sucks.
He avoids me and I avoid him. He doesn’t talk to me and I don’t talk to him. If he walks into a room, I walk out. If I walk into a room, he leaves. It’s just plain awkward.
From this experience alone, I would not recommend dating a co-worker because if it ends (and it probably will), it’s going to be super awkward at work after the breakup. Believe me, it’s not worth it.