Real Live College Guy: Talking about Hook-Up’s

Girl friends tend to share details of their sex lives with each other, but I’ve heard guys don’t. Is he talking about our hookup as soon as I leave?

 

Put simply, yes. Here’s a little insight into the highlights of the conversation:

The typical guy is usually pretty selective with his audience. If a guy finds out a girl is talking about their hookups and is saying good things then he is flattered or even proud of himself. If a girl finds out a guy is talking about their hookup then he is in trouble no matter what he said. So we usually like to keep it to a select few that will keep it tight lipped in case we ever want to hookup again.
 

We don’t usually do play by plays. If I had to think back on every hookup discussion I’ve had it usually breaks down in similar fashion. Identify the girl. A guy will spend the first half talking about who knows this girl, what she looks like, and how he met her. Maybe he will look her up Facebook just to set the scene. Next he will give the story on how he the hookup happened. A quick statement about what happened along the lines of “We kissed outside her place and I didn’t end up going in with her but she said she wanted to hang out again.” This transitions the conversation into the “Where are you going to go from here?” where guys try to draw up a game plan to hang out again. Unless something odd happened in the hookup then that will be discussed to death.
 

So unless he is embarrassed about a dance-floor make out or really likes you and can’t risk anything getting back to you, he is probably at least saying that much about your hookup.